I'm in the same boat. I have got so much knowledge and support here, it has helped so much. But there is an addictive quality to these boards and I find that when I come in here I think about my ex much more than I would if I wasn't coming in here. The fact is, I want to think of my ex as little as possible and get on with my life.
Rifka, you have been such a positive inspiration to so many people in here. These boards need people like you to help others but if you leave I'll understand and will be wishing you the very best for the future. If you leave I just want you to know that you have been an amazing help to me and I thank you from the bottom of my heart for that. And I know that when you are ready you will get into an amazingly healthy, fulfilling relationship now that being with a BPD and learning so much about BPD has made you bulletproof.
Bauie,
Thank you so much! You are just so sweet and kind. Believe me when I tell you that I feel so much love and concern from so many of the wonderful people here. Thank you all for helping me so much when I came here a wreck, confused, and at my wits end.
I got so much power from all of you.
I will stick around for the next week and then wean out of here.
Bauie, you are definitely one very special person, you have followed me here and picked me up off the floor many times with your caring and cheerleading!
I'm thinking that there is a point where it is time to leave here and move on with our lives. Everybody will find that time in their own time. There is no time limit!
The resources here are invaluable. I will leave a donation on the site for my gratitude when I leave. I am proud to help keep this a working site that can help so many people like myself that never even heard of BPD before a month ago. Finding this site was so important in the healing process.
I will p/m you Bauie!
Hugs to you my friend and hugs to you all.
I am forever grateful for the open arms and hearts that I receive from all of you!
May you all find the door to close your pain from all of the chaos of this disorder.
May you all finally accept that you did everything in your capacity for your partners, but they are mentally sick and you can't save them, so you need to save yourselves.
We are in charge of us and our happiness.
We can't just give undeserving or mentally Ill people that responsibility because they can't even be responsible for themselves.
May you find the strength to let them go, no matter how difficult it is because you deserve so much better and true love and respect!
Rifka