Shocking news about my ex fantasy relationship world, glad I got away

[How to communicate after a contentious divorce...]

While she was seeing me , she now admitted having a "hidden" relationship while dating me , since a year+ back in time, when she had a little fling.

This relationship has some common abusivity ... .

When he wants get laid, he turn off his relationship status to "single", a simple sexual transaction and he turns it to "in a relationship" again (this can toggle in hours, mostly days).

After a few days the status is changed, and it is repeating.

When the "in a relationship" status in enabled at FB, the dates changed by her , more back in time to give the impression that they have been in relationship longer for each time.

She does EVERYTHING to keep "in a relationship" status FB , and  uses sex to keep the subject attached.

It really is a fantasy-world, she wants a relationship fro the sake of being in it , the person behind is just a necessary tool for gaining it.

I am so glad this new boyfriend came along and showed me how crazy she is , thanks.

[borderdude]

While she was seeing me , she now admitted having a "hidden" relationship while dating me , since a year+ back in time, when she had a little fling.

This relationship has some common abusivity ... .

When he wants get laid, he turn off his relationship status to "single", a simple sexual transaction and he turns it to "in a relationship" again (this can toggle in hours, mostly days).

After a few days the status is changed, and it is repeating.

When the "in a relationship" status in enabled at FB, the dates changed by her , more back in time to give the impression that they have been in relationship longer for each time.

She does EVERYTHING to keep "in a relationship" status FB , and  uses sex to keep the subject attached.

It really is a fantasy-world, she wants a relationship fro the sake of being in it , the person behind is just a necessary tool for gaining it.

I am so glad this new boyfriend came along and showed me how crazy she is , thanks.

[Mutt]

It shows   's changing the status back and forth. I agree with you on the new boyfriend, it took someone new and to be out of the relationship to start understanding the toxicity of the relationship and how dysfunctional it was on both sides.

[borderdude]

I hurts to see the "real "person behind shining trough, the person witch I saw in a different light.

Hard to say who is exploiting who! He tries to get rid of her, but gladly returns for sex,

she gladly give her "transactions" for being able to have a "in a relationship"  status on Facebook (normalcy prop)?


One thing is certain , she got no self-respect and he is using her fear of abandonment getting sex.

[borderdude]

Why this has not ended in a "devaluation" due to fear of abandonment , I can not say , really strange .?