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my ex shared with me a song for a native band of hers (we speak the same language but with different accents). i got the song while on shuffle. i focused on the lyrics and found it very suitable. i would like to share with you the lyrics of the song translated :
Be so nice and tell me son where do you want to go
The road is difficult and long and it tests the soul
But my big body has my small heart to bear
I received the taste of vinegar instead of honey
You can drive or be driven, the choice goes back to you
Before the world would forget you at the end of the road
Whether you want or not, the car will move on
And your road has no meaning like everything
You’ll die
Against your will, you will die
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they are able to identify with themselves through things outside of themselves. when I stopped and thought back on my exs art and art she identified with I realized their was a level of awareness that she related to her pain and fears. the thing is when she acted them out unconciously she was unaware of her projection. for example I went by a friends and I saw some piece of art on a car in front. I started describing a borderline to him and said a person like that lives here and he was shocked that I knew. they choose symbols and poems they identify with and this is how they tell people who they are. My ex does it all the time.
I think most people see this stuff and just think crazy chicks are good in bed and easy. We fell in love and got destroyed.
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On that note, I will watch the movie ":)ark Man" tonight--it's dark and raining, so why the heck not? It's what exbfBPD calls himself: a Marvel character, I think. It was his warning to me two weeks before he abandoned me: "I'm going to go dark again--it's the only way I know how to survive--get me the costume for Halloween; I'm going to be Dark Man."
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Quote from: Blimblam on September 27, 2014, 03:29:23 PM
they are able to identify with themselves through things outside of themselves. when I stopped and thought back on my exs art and art she identified with I realized their was a level of awareness that she related to her pain and fears. the thing is when she acted them out unconciously she was unaware of her projection. for example I went by a friends and I saw some piece of art on a car in front. I started describing a borderline to him and said a person like that lives here and he was shocked that I knew. they choose symbols and poems they identify with and this is how they tell people who they are. My ex does it all the time.
I think most people see this stuff and just think crazy chicks are good in bed and easy. We fell in love and got destroyed.
my ex writes poetry full of love and pain. she has a master's degree in comparative literature. in hindsight, i think she likes writing and literature specially the comparative part (comparing between literature in different languages) as it is the most close way to try to describe her own feelings. most close but not even close enough.
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Quote from: Loveofhislife on September 27, 2014, 03:45:04 PM
On that note, I will watch the movie ":)ark Man" tonight--it's dark and raining, so why the heck not? It's what exbfBPD calls himself: a Marvel character, I think. It was his warning to me two weeks before he abandoned me: "I'm going to go dark again--it's the only way I know how to survive--get me the costume for Halloween; I'm going to be Dark Man."
i am sorry for your pain. i am trying to relate. its painful when they give us hints about what they are going to do and then we miss it. we beat ourselves up because of the hindsight.
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Quote from: antony_james on September 27, 2014, 03:50:14 PM
Quote from: Blimblam on September 27, 2014, 03:29:23 PM
they are able to identify with themselves through things outside of themselves. when I stopped and thought back on my exs art and art she identified with I realized their was a level of awareness that she related to her pain and fears. the thing is when she acted them out unconciously she was unaware of her projection. for example I went by a friends and I saw some piece of art on a car in front. I started describing a borderline to him and said a person like that lives here and he was shocked that I knew. they choose symbols and poems they identify with and this is how they tell people who they are. My ex does it all the time.
I think most people see this stuff and just think crazy chicks are good in bed and easy. We fell in love and got destroyed.
my ex writes poetry full of love and pain. she has a master's degree in comparative literature. in hindsight, i think she likes writing and literature specially the comparative part (comparing between literature in different languages) as it is the most close way to try to describe her own feelings. most close but not even close enough.
yes they do it through their relationships...
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My wife is a songwriter. Her so gs are sad and beautiful: her best is "stranger in the mirror".
She also goes through old photo albums on really bad days. I'm not sure what she is trying to remember.
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