The spell is broken , leaving

[Family Court Strategies: When Your Partner Has BPD OR NPD Traits.]

Ok so I think of accumulate  the experiences here, I have now moved on , feel peaceful, met her few days ago, and she was another person, she has changed after meeting the new supply.

When she turned to me she changed back to the known personality. We actually have a good time together and trive in each other company (funny enough).

She already had made attempt charming and that still in the clinging phase with new BF, she propose me to stay a night over at her place, I just ignored her.

[borderdude]

Ok so I think of accumulate  the experiences here, I have now moved on , feel peaceful, met her few days ago, and she was another person, she has changed after meeting the new supply.

When she turned to me she changed back to the known personality. We actually have a good time together and trive in each other company (funny enough).

She already had made attempt charming and that still in the clinging phase with new BF, she propose me to stay a night over at her place, I just ignored her.

[trampledfoot]

That is a huge milestone, when you can say no to her advances in person you have definitely made it. I am hoping to get there one day myself until then I have to be NC. I really like how you call it a spell because I have always felt like a curse is hanging over me. Anytime I try and meet someone new or push her out of my system and smile the curse leaks back in. The BPDs are truly poison and the longer we spend with them and the more we give of them they engulf our souls with poison and you cannot flush your system over night.

[Zpinal]

That's awesome, I am 6 weeks out of my exPBPDgf r/s and I do feel much better now as my r/s was intense but short and I only experience the surface of the tip of the iceberg that most people suffered in here, yet it did hurt like a sob. As someone else posted before me, a normal person breakup you have something to work on, some closure, with a BPD, its like «just gone» leaving you wondering wth happened.

I am glad you can say no to her face, if my ex gets back, I am not sure to be capable to turn her away yet and that scares the sh!t out of me. I keep NC but do have news once in a while through common friends/acquaintances but i dont let this bother me, for what I am seeing its the same story repeating itself like a broken record and it seems to already be trouble in paradise, should I care? ABSOLUTELY NOT! It's her paradise, not mine!

My paradise now is looking forward to the end of my course (change of career, I am in my late 30s) at the end of the month followed by internship and a job. A brighter future ahead of me and the women of my life is somewhere, we only have to find each other

[Rifka]

Ok so I think of accumulate  the experiences here, I have now moved on , feel peaceful, met her few days ago, and she was another person, she has changed after meeting the new supply.

When she turned to me she changed back to the known personality. We actually have a good time together and trive in each other company (funny enough).

She already had made attempt charming and that still in the clinging phase with new BF, she propose me to stay a night over at her place, I just ignored her.

It sounds good!

Just be aware when the new replacement ends and she is still in contact with you that you might need to pull out the heavy duty armored suit to fight the charm she will ooze on you to pull you back in!

Stand strong!

I know if I saw him in person, I too could absolutely say no or ignore his attempt to pull me into his lair.

I just feel safer for myself to not purposely put myself near him or in any position where he might try to hypnotize again!

N/C for me is a must!

[Mutt]

She already had made attempt charming and that still in the clinging phase with new BF, she propose me to stay a night over at her place, I just ignored her.

Bravo 

That shows character and strength rolfie123

[borderdude]

She already had made attempt charming and that still in the clinging phase with new BF, she propose me to stay a night over at her place, I just ignored her.

Bravo 

That shows character and strength rolfie123

I need it now , the rs of her is over, see a rebound coming in strong, she always manipulate them back after a few days. She needs me as backup or fallback person, by denying her that option I hope she repeat her mistakes often enough to learn something.