being tested?

[mitchell16]

IM being tested. after being nc for about 7 weeks now, about 5 months past break up. I was texted by a relative of hers that basically a low life and that she ahs been sick and I havent checked on her so i must have never loved her. LOL  really, after everything i did but give up my own soul im accused of this. Of course I looked it at as just another ploy to get me to respond. even if she is sick, ill or on her death bed she is no longer my reponsiblity. IM happy, Ive found someone who is nice to me, treats me well, cares about me and so far hasnt lied. Why, would I want to ever go back again to HELL. I truly no longer wish her anything bad i just want to be left alone.


BUt this kind of crap will tets your nerves, even if you repsond with anger they still win. In my heart this was just another desperate attempt to get me to break nc and respnd. which I didnt. so yes I feel good. Just needed to share.

[Recooperating]

Super! Good for you! Im so happy to hear you have a good and healthy rs now and you moved on from all this BS! Gives me hope!

Their manipulative ways never stop to amaze me... .

[Rise]

 

[mitchell16]

your are right they are always manipulating. its does hurt though to have to turn away someone who you love or care about so much. to be forced to have toa ct this way is very sad. But I have to, if im ever going to have a life a normal life that the only way. NC is the only way. Ive tried LC, being friendly but nothing worked.

[Vivienne]

It's good to hear that you've moved on and are now happy with a good person.  While your ex partner will probably struggle and play games for the rest of her life. But as you said, it's not your responsibility anymore, which is probably a huge relief! True, rs with BPD it's like hell on earth, but in most cases we only realize it after they are completely gone.

You're so right, it's really unnerving to get those manipulative messages. NC is the only good solution, and in some cases blocking their number.