Not a PEEP

[robert4574]

Haven't heard from my dBPDex in a few weeks now and I haven't seen her face since June and we live in the same city, albeit a very large city. I think I might have figured out why. My last email to her was nothing but truth. Exactly how I felt about what she did to me. She just couldn't take it. It's crazy how she writes me pretending as if nothing has happened. I wrote two emails after that were just so hateful. She said she didn't even read the second one because it was just too mean. In my eyes it was nothing but truth. The only way she can contact me now is by calling me and leaving me a blocked message. I shouldn't even have checked it but you guys understand how it is.

It actually brought up a memory that I had forgotten regarding a facebook message she sent to a girl, who wasn't even her friend on fb. I was checking out her facebook towards the end of the relationship because I knew something fishy was going on. I look at a message from like 3 years before I even met her. It was something very casual like "hey, how are you, I miss you, etc" then it had no response for like a solid year. Then my ex writes again and no response and then she writes again and the girl finally responds. She writes something very similar to what I wrote. "I can't believe what you did and the fact that you are casually writing me as if nothing has happened." By that point the girl was married. I have no idea what she did, but i'm sure it was horrible. It wouldn't surprise me if she was actually seeing this woman at some point. Hell, nothing is really surprising anymore.

Well, the initial reason I am writing is because I have an ex-girlfriend is who is NOT mentally ill coming to visit me in two weeks for two weeks. I am scared to death that my ex will find out and make some kind of scene of biblical proportions. I guess really there is nothing I can do to prepare. I have her blocked in every way possible.

Have any of you guys went back to an ex (non-BPD) after dating a BPD? I have only good memories about my non BPD ex. It was actually healthy, but we broke up because of our careers and LD.

[Waifed]

I have only dated one person since my breakup.  She was not an ex.  Your situation played out much like mine towards the end.  I also looked on her Facebook and found out she was going out on dates with other people.  She also had a best friend (female) that I am pretty sure they mess around when out drinking.  They seem to be all over the place with everything.  Unfortunately for her any type of intimacy with her friend will just doom that relationship too and she will lose her only friend.  You are early in the recovery stage so it won't do any good to tell you to just ignore all the craziness because you will never make sense of it.  You have to let your mind play it all out before you can be at peace with everything.  Stay strong and take things one day at a time.  I wish you luck with your ex (non)girlfriend, but honestly it may be hard for you to make a connection with her right now. 

[Deeno02]

Over a month since b/u. 15 days N/C. Not a peep. Thank god! Not sure how I would handle it... .