Help - Is this all part of BPD?

[How to communicate after a contentious divorce...]

OK, so you may have read some of my previous posts, but to summarise I split with my ex BPDgf and mother of my 2 year old son back in August and experienced the whole rollercoaster that many of us have witness and shared experiences of, basically the following sequence of events:

1. she left me, there was talk of her wanting someone else (never materialised apparently)

2. I ended up in an altercation with her brother/father after a night out, and due to assault and gbh allegations am currently on bail awaiting trial (which i am hopeful now her and her family have changed their minds, will get dropped).

3. I was apparently portrayed as being the "villain", even though i still have our son 4 nights a week and more than she does.

4. After a tough couple of months I met a new girl, where things have gone well and it's refreshing to be able to talk to someone who isn't obsessed with self image and what other people are thinking about her.

Things have been going well with this new girl, but I have since had contact from my ex (who doesn't know a thing about me trying to move on), basically saying how although due to the legal situation she cannot see me and I cannot contact her, she hasn't moved on and still wants what we had, and isn't sure what she can do etc.

Has anyone else been in this situation? As much as I hated what she has done to me and am in an unsure position legally , I still find it hard to detach from the good times, and the intense passion etc. The fact that she hasn't moved on and says what she is saying is like keeping a door ajar for me. Even though I have moved on myself with someone, it's like getting a taste of a drug you used to be addicted to and wanting one last hit, even more so for the sake of giving my son the "normal family".

Anyone else been in a similar situiation?

Thanks

CC

[CC85]

OK, so you may have read some of my previous posts, but to summarise I split with my ex BPDgf and mother of my 2 year old son back in August and experienced the whole rollercoaster that many of us have witness and shared experiences of, basically the following sequence of events:

1. she left me, there was talk of her wanting someone else (never materialised apparently)

2. I ended up in an altercation with her brother/father after a night out, and due to assault and gbh allegations am currently on bail awaiting trial (which i am hopeful now her and her family have changed their minds, will get dropped).

3. I was apparently portrayed as being the "villain", even though i still have our son 4 nights a week and more than she does.

4. After a tough couple of months I met a new girl, where things have gone well and it's refreshing to be able to talk to someone who isn't obsessed with self image and what other people are thinking about her.

Things have been going well with this new girl, but I have since had contact from my ex (who doesn't know a thing about me trying to move on), basically saying how although due to the legal situation she cannot see me and I cannot contact her, she hasn't moved on and still wants what we had, and isn't sure what she can do etc.

Has anyone else been in this situation? As much as I hated what she has done to me and am in an unsure position legally , I still find it hard to detach from the good times, and the intense passion etc. The fact that she hasn't moved on and says what she is saying is like keeping a door ajar for me. Even though I have moved on myself with someone, it's like getting a taste of a drug you used to be addicted to and wanting one last hit, even more so for the sake of giving my son the "normal family".

Anyone else been in a similar situiation?

Thanks

CC

[merlin4926]

Yes I've been there but like drugs if you relapse you have to start recovery all over again- is it worth it for a high that can only ever be short term? Sorry x