day one no contact

[BrokenFamily]

I've been cheated on, dumped treated like ___ and I still feel like I'm to blame and there was something I could have done differently to save our family. I'm being called pathetic by someone who once loved me more than anyone in the world, someone who I've had the best times of my life with because I'm crying over our breakup and she is happily with the new man she's been seeing since the day she left. I don't understand how someone can forget that easily and how they can go from loving me and our family to sleeping with a stranger but it's no longer for me to understand, my responsibility it to my 15 month old daughter not to a heartless monster who would do these types of things and feel no remorse. Please pray for me and my daughter and give me strength to do what's right for us both by cutting this cruel person from our lives so we can have a better future.

[camuse]

Good luck! You are doing the right thing, the only correct thing to do.

It's probably going to be a tough journey, but freedom is GUARANTEED if you can stick with it.

Keep posting!

[BrokenFamily]

I feel like if I keep posting it will have me still thinking about her and I really want to just erase her existence as she did mine and totally forget about her as she did me

[hope2727]

You are worthy and deserving of a true love and a happy healthy love at that. 

Go eat some expensive ice cream. it helps me immensely. Particularly in the first few days.

[FoolishMan]

I feel like if I keep posting it will have me still thinking about her and I really want to just erase her existence as she did mine and totally forget about her as she did me

It can be like that, if you don't post then simply reading can help. I had to wait till I was over 6 months out before posting but had read lots up till then. If I read my posts from the early breakup I think they would upset me now. I've deleted everything I've wrote or received from her. It was the only way. Have a read at the staying side of the forum, it helped me detach knowing what awaited me in the future had I kept her. Good luck I hope you are feeling better very soon. Don't worry too much about the timeframe for healing either. I did and it only caused me more self inflicted pain.

[OutOfEgypt]

Brokenfamily... .prayers ascend, brother.

And I understand about how posting about her just keeps her in your head.  I've struggled with that.  I post much less because of that.

As far as feeling like it is your fault, I've been there.  With the help of a good T, I was able to recover from that.  I know I had my flaws but so doesn't everybody.  That is why we have VOWS when we marry.  These people are always looking for someone else to blame for their behaviors and enslaving desires that they indulge.

[BrokenFamily]

Took my daughter to the park sold the car I bought for my ex and had a pretty good day. She hasn't tried to contract me since our last conversation didn't go so well but I really don't have an interest in contacting her. I know it sounds mean but I am looking forward to not responding to her calls and texts as she's done to me maybe then she will realize what she's been putting me thru. She says she's sorry for ending our 4 years together and being with someone new the same week but she's still seeing him and wasn't giving me a chance to even be a friend the past month saying she needs some time. Maybe I pushed her away and closer to the new guy by fighting to keep our family together but she's the one to tore it apart so I don't feel guilty for crying , begging and pleading with her. The other day it really seemed like she wanted our happy life again but thinks I'll always hold the new guy over her head and she can't come back being the wrong one.