Hi everyone-
My last post on here was about all the excuses and justification my ex gave regarding cheating and having poor boundaries with other guys. A day or two after that post she decided to call me and apologize. She was being nice so of course I gave in and we had a good couple of weeks or so, until... .
This isn't a lengthy story at all but it's quite strange. We were playing with her dog who is a black lab. The dog loves to swim and loves being around water. I suggested that the dog might like going out in the boat next summer. My ex immediately replied, "No! You take that back!" I said, "Why?" She said, "She wouldn't like it now take that back!" Then she started rubbing her hands on me and licking my face while still saying "Take that back or you won't get a goodnight kiss". WHAT? I asked her if she was using sex to manipulate me into saying what she wanted me to say. She told me she was just trying to flirt with me, got mad and stormed off. I was sexually abused as a kid so her behavior was very triggering but even if I hadn't been abused I still think I would've felt horribly manipulated. I asked her why talking about the dog in the boat made her so upset but she wouldn't explain. She just kept repeatedly telling me "Take that back!". She also told me that she was innocently flirting with me and I turned it into a big deal by being hurt by her behavior. WHAT? She also told me that I could've resolved the whole situation if I had "just taken back what I said".
Has anyone else experienced anything like this? Was she experience a flashback from her own abuse or something?
Thanks everyone.
Yeah, when we argued and stuff settled down (usually a one way arguement) we would go about either going out or, if her kids were home, we would snuggle on the couch and watch TV with the kids, order pizza stuff like that. Perfectly normal family time. So as it got to be 1030-11 pm, I would excuse myself so I could go home to bed for work the next morning. I would go to kiss her good night and I would get "mmm mmm, I have to like you again first" and turn her cheek to me to kiss. Weird... .very demeaning
