slight behavior change... interpretation help?

[emancipated]

I have posted a couple of different times and finding it difficult to find assistance with what I am requesting... Spoke to my ex who I suspect is BPD... .Long story attempting to be shorter is we broke up after a fight she moved on quickly and hid the relationship. Still hasn't made him the profile pic on facebook and before I found out on my own about him she vehemently denied it... I have been painted as black as midnight and trying to follow guides in attempt to get ur ex back and rebound relationship material didn't apply as much as the BPD things have... .had been in nc and reached out to talk about a dog we adopted together she said they still had it but the microchip place said was a different name... I didn't ask how she was... ask about him or the kids she has like I used to because i know I am beyond that at this point. Trying to convince her I am good... What I need help with unlike other times when I would text her initial rea... ction was leave me alone this time however she had a number of questions... What am I doing.did I get the new job... did I reconcile with my estranged wife all of which seems out of her recent character... .I know she and the old man moved in last.montj after being together for 2-3 months... that I know of its likely she was cheating but that's nor here nor there. What I would love help with is case is am I being position for a recycle/charm? And if anyone has similar experience would love to hear. Am I open to a recycle ... yes and no ... I know I wasn't perfect but would value the opportunity to discuss it and see where her head might be at and what to be on the lookout for going forward

[Infern0]

It's hard to tell what is going on in her head but the sudden behaviour change makes it pretty sure that you have been painted white. 

However that doesn't automatically mean that she is going to attempt a recycle.  It could be that she will try to friendzone you or that she needs something from you so it suits you to be civil.

It could also mean that her new guy was being "mean" to her so in that moment she thought you looked a better option but then things even out between them and you become useless again.

My advice on these situations is to go about your life, chill out and just scope out the situation/See what happens.  She may come back she may not,  you can't do much to effect her decision so just figure out what you want and see what she does.

[emancipated]

Inferno.

Thank you that is all I really needed... at this point not certain I want to be recycled... It was just so stunning to suddenly have such a drastic change in behavior... I know she doesnt do anything just to be nice so I assumed it had to do with some ulterior motives. To be candid I know what I would need from her in order to consider trying again... and I don't know what happened its almost like she doesn't try to rub the new relationship in my face except for when I asked her essentially what happened in an attempt at closure and I'm sure u can tell how that went... Also this time frame for non BPD individuals is normally when a rebound relationship breaks down and also I have opinined in the past that the attempts to conceal the new relationship was either he was married or wanted to keep me strung along until things hit the skids and confronting her made her expedite the process of moving in together and such... I know it is impossible to know for sure... however my plan at this point hasn't changed it is still focus on me and detaching and if something comes about different to tackle it as it comes... this was just so unexpected... .The new guy is about 20 years older and a senior enlisted in the navy so I think ur whole he may have been mean or nasty or demanding all I things I told her to expect from senior enlisted so thanks again... it was nice to see however that fact she doesn't affect me like she used to but I can't deny she still can otherwise I wouldn't be here

[Infern0]

In my case my ex didn't rub her new rs in my face either in fact she's very secretive about him, no pictures of him on social media etc.

Anyways she reached out to me and we had some friendly interaction and I kind of took it at face value.  Didn't really know what her angle was but just thought well having a conversation won't hurt and being friendly if we run into each other

Next thing I noticed on facebook that she had added TWO of her exes (ones she told me were insane asss etc).

So knowing what I know she's triangulating and weighing up her options for a replacement to escape from my replacement.  

I just put her on block and that's it as far as I'm concerned.  That's the thing with these borderlines,  the minute you have any faith in them that they are trying to do the right thing they just dissapoint you once again.  

[guy4caligirl]

I have posted a couple of different times and finding it difficult to find assistance with what I am requesting... Spoke to my ex who I suspect is BPD... .Long story attempting to be shorter is we broke up after a fight she moved on quickly and hid the relationship. Still hasn't made him the profile pic on facebook and before I found out on my own about him she vehemently denied it... I have been painted as black as midnight and trying to follow guides in attempt to get ur ex back and rebound relationship material didn't apply as much as the BPD things have... .had been in nc and reached out to talk about a dog we adopted together she said they still had it but the microchip place said was a different name... I didn't ask how she was... ask about him or the kids she has like I used to because i know I am beyond that at this point. Trying to convince her I am good... What I need help with unlike other times when I would text her initial rea... ction was leave me alone this time however she had a number of questions... What am I doing.did I get the new job... did I reconcile with my estranged wife all of which seems out of her recent character... .I know she and the old man moved in last.montj after being together for 2-3 months... that I know of its likely she was cheating but that's nor here nor there. What I would love help with is case is am I being position for a recycle/charm? And if anyone has similar experience would love to hear. Am I open to a recycle ... yes and no ... I know I wasn't perfect but would value the opportunity to discuss it and see where her head might be at and what to be on the lookout for going forward

Hi

I am too open for recycle, it's so hard to read what's going on in their mind very... .

I came to term whish's not easy  to stop trying to see the logic in their wicked thinking you really don't know what's going on in their dysfunctional brain I am tiered of making any sense of it she says I never want to talk to you this is my last email or so then she does she want to recycle I have no idea it seems like no way but again you're dealing with a person that have UPS and downs by the minutes ,keep NC going that might help you have or I don't have any other choice recycling is in their hand not yours

[emancipated]

Inferno... I think you may have been right about being friendly... I forgot to mention i still had a key card from our apartment we shared and apparently between her and old money bags another 50 bucks is gonna hurt them for the replacement cost... although its impossible to know where they are at I'm quite sure that was at least a motivating factor... Although still puzzling if that is the case it just gives me a Lil more bad to push in to combat what was at one point the emotionally gratifying relationship I ever had . it sucks to not be able to let go when since June there has nothing but pain. I can't tell if she's happy or not and I think all the not knowing is what is making things so difficult the one that stuck out the most was the asking if me and my estranged wife had reconciled which clearly means she had checked my Facebook

[Hawk Ridge]

I am puzzled by my exPwBPD too