... .anyone care to share the BPs typical reaction when they find out you are dating new people? I'd feel better knowing and being prepared for what I might be in for.
I bet that there probably isn't an exact "typical" reaction that everyone with BPD has when they find out their Ex is dating again, or in
any situation for that matter. Everyone--BPD or not--is unique and different. Some people are distraught and jealous when an Ex starts dating again, some have moved on and don't really get too upset. Some might feel hurt and in pain, and will get depressed and cry all day. Some will be sad and upset, but will suck it up and move on with their lives.
I guess none of us ever really know for sure what our loved ones (or Ex loved ones) will or will not do in stressful situations... .How do you feel about starting to date again? Are you ready for a new relationship? Are you happy and excited? I would start there, and give him the space to figure it out on his own, and yourself the time to grieve the loss of that other relationship and the chance for a new life. I wish you well when you begin anew, shatra