will my fiance try and reengage ?

[dobie]

I'm not a 100% that my x is BPD though she sure as hell fits the traits ... .Constant analysis of us and the relationship over _6 years ... Idealisation followed by doubts , worries , paranoia i would "screw her over" anxieties a constant need for me to support and ground her emotionally  but very little back when I need the emotional support . an inability to be happy and tendencey to blame me or us or anything and everything but her , mood swings , no sense of guilt or very little , victim complex , sulking and passive aggression behaviours, little sense of self  I could go on ... .

Anyway a few months back she was taking me to wedding venues , telling me how we are meant to be and how she would kill herself if anything happened to me   yadda yadda yadda then three days before my birthday a week after she spends 4 days away from me on a trip with a friend (she still sends me emails complaining while on the trip ) and a week spent at home where she is I'll and bad tempered (the usual ) and where for once I don't really give her much affection plus by this point I'm sick of the sour face , the moaning etc I post up on FB how great it would be to be single she proceeds to tell me her feelings have changed and she needs time to think she stays at her sisters over my birthday and I blow my top telling her on the Friday its over . By the Sunday she is telling me how relived she was to leave me and she no longer loves me and not to screw women in her bed (what the heck)  i tell her i respect and understand which shocks her but she seems happy . After that conversation I notice she goes cold as ice , she no longer seems to care about me or us and only complains about how hard it is to get to work from her sisters , and how much her new flat is going to cost  etc.etc she strips the flat a few weeks later , charges me for what she leaves behind and thinks nothing of the fact I had to rehome our dog of 5 years or how I feel after losing her and the life we were going to have . its like in a matter of weeks I now cease to exist and her feelings for me are dead and she is not to blame (as always)

Assuming she is BPD will she try and reengage me ? Every time we have texted or talked over the last 7 weeks she feels no remorse and wants me to be over her .

[DangIthurts]

Unknown remember these are commonalities shared, but they are still individuals some here never go away, some will say they love you after 2 years of no contact, and some never come back because its easier to run.

Only you can decide whats best for you. As much as most of these threads read the same, they are still VERY much individuals.