Random Calls, and then unblocked

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So basically at the start of November I ended up having a bit of a weak moment and sent her a txt (we used to chat on whatsapp, but she had blocked me on there) saying that I missed talking to her and asked how she was - I wasn't prepared for the txt back that told me to leave her alone, that she told the police she'd let them know if i made contact with her again, that i was a weird, psycho stalker, and to never message her again!

Needless to say, I didn't reply, but the next day I get a phone call from 'no caller ID' which I ignored, then 3 calls in a row from a random mobile number - I was in a meeting at work so didn't answer them, but I called the number back and it was turned off. Then 3 days later again, No caller ID phones me, then later on this mobile number calls me, I miss the first call, then answer when it rings me again... .no one speaks, then hangs up... .and calls me straight back! Still no one talking and it hangs up again!

About a week later I mention it to my friend and we google the number, and actually find something that makes me think it's her works mobile! So i call it the next day with my friend, and guess who answers? Yep, my exgf! She answers "Hello *** speaking?", then when she hears that its me, pretends she can't hear me and eventually hangs up! I sent a txt to her works phone the next day asking why she was calling me when she told me never to contact her, and i didn't get a response... .but then she unblocks me on whatsapp!

I wasn't going to message her on whatsapp, especially after what she sent me last time i txt her, and the fact that she dumped me via a txt message months before to go back to her 'abusive' exbf, who she is still with!

Tonight, a week later after being unblocked, I have again been blocked... .can anyone explain all this weird behaviour? I think she was just messing with me with the phone calls and unblocking me, and maybe hoping that i would contact her so she could again just call me a stalker and that i was checking up on her?

Thanks for reading!

[timetobe]

So basically at the start of November I ended up having a bit of a weak moment and sent her a txt (we used to chat on whatsapp, but she had blocked me on there) saying that I missed talking to her and asked how she was - I wasn't prepared for the txt back that told me to leave her alone, that she told the police she'd let them know if i made contact with her again, that i was a weird, psycho stalker, and to never message her again!

Needless to say, I didn't reply, but the next day I get a phone call from 'no caller ID' which I ignored, then 3 calls in a row from a random mobile number - I was in a meeting at work so didn't answer them, but I called the number back and it was turned off. Then 3 days later again, No caller ID phones me, then later on this mobile number calls me, I miss the first call, then answer when it rings me again... .no one speaks, then hangs up... .and calls me straight back! Still no one talking and it hangs up again!

About a week later I mention it to my friend and we google the number, and actually find something that makes me think it's her works mobile! So i call it the next day with my friend, and guess who answers? Yep, my exgf! She answers "Hello *** speaking?", then when she hears that its me, pretends she can't hear me and eventually hangs up! I sent a txt to her works phone the next day asking why she was calling me when she told me never to contact her, and i didn't get a response... .but then she unblocks me on whatsapp!

I wasn't going to message her on whatsapp, especially after what she sent me last time i txt her, and the fact that she dumped me via a txt message months before to go back to her 'abusive' exbf, who she is still with!

Tonight, a week later after being unblocked, I have again been blocked... .can anyone explain all this weird behaviour? I think she was just messing with me with the phone calls and unblocking me, and maybe hoping that i would contact her so she could again just call me a stalker and that i was checking up on her?

Thanks for reading!

[Jmanster]

This is a game... .dont play into it... .do not contact her by any means!

[.cup.car]

I know that feel bro.

BPD supercharges regular behavior.

It's ok to miss someone. It's ok to call someone to talk about feelings after the relationship has ended. This is called being heartbroken.

BPD supercharges those feelings. Sometimes it leads to tearful confessions at 2am or weird bedroom activities, other times she claims youre stalking her. I've experienced both ends of the spectrum. It's a safe bet shes stalking you.

Good luck actually doing something about it. Cops will tell you to take her to court, and in court you'll be called a liar and told youre using the system to harass her.

[Splitblack4good]

I know that feel bro.

BPD supercharges regular behavior.

It's ok to miss someone. It's ok to call someone to talk about feelings after the relationship has ended. This is called being heartbroken.

BPD supercharges those feelings. Sometimes it leads to tearful confessions at 2am or weird bedroom activities, other times she claims youre stalking her. I've experienced both ends of the spectrum. It's a safe bet shes stalking you.

Good luck actually doing something about it. Cops will tell you to take her to court, and in court you'll be called a liar and told youre using the system to harass her.

I had a call from an unknown number last night answerd it then It cut off . So def my ex it's so weird why they do it may be just to hear your voice ? Don't know .

[peiper]

I got a couple a few nights ago at quarter to four in the morning.  Both blocked.  About the only call I'd make at that time of the morning is 911

[Infared]

I know that feel bro.

BPD supercharges regular behavior.

It's ok to miss someone. It's ok to call someone to talk about feelings after the relationship has ended. This is called being heartbroken.

BPD supercharges those feelings. Sometimes it leads to tearful confessions at 2am or weird bedroom activities, other times she claims youre stalking her. I've experienced both ends of the spectrum. It's a safe bet shes stalking you.

Good luck actually doing something about it. Cops will tell you to take her to court, and in court you'll be called a liar and told youre using the system to harass her.

I had a call from an unknown number last night answerd it then It cut off . So def my ex it's so weird why they do it may be just to hear your voice ? Don't know .

It's psychotic addiction and control stuff. (Come here-Get away). Her's sounds extreme. Remember it's borderline of schizophrenia. Take care of you. Get commited with yourself and just block all possibilities of her contacting you by any means. Send a clear message.

Sounds like you have your hands full there! I feel for you.

[Splitblack4good]

I just laugh now ! In actual fact I find it interesting to see what they do next or how far they will go to get a reaction . I just got a text thru 40 mins from her asking no more like demanding if I could ring the Internet company as her broard band is slow . I did reply with

Here is the customer relations tel number ************ you can call them.

And supprise supprise she hasn't text back I do laugh at her expense now.

[timetobe]

It is very strange the things they do! No normal person does these things - there was a part of me wanting to message her when I was unblocked, but figured I would probably just get more abuse or be labelled a stalker and that i was 'checking up on her' - plus she's still with the guy she left me for!

Always nice to come on here and see other's that have experienced the same, it does help, as much as i wouldn't wish BPD on anyone though! Wonder if she will try to contact me again somehow!

[FrenchConnection]

Funny this thread is up this week.

I received a "blocked number" call yesterday during work.  It was during the 1pm hour which is when my exBPDgf used to always call me when we were still dating.

I answered the call and could hear someone on the other end of the line (even though they did not say anything).  After saying 'hello' and 'anyone there' a couple of times the person then hung up the phone.  Then within a minute i received another "blocked number" call.  Same thing; no response and after about 30 seconds they hung up the phone without saying a word.

My ex used to tell me that one of her old boyfriends who was still after her would call her using a 'blocked number'.  But she said she never answered it.  I remember asking her at the time how in the world she knew it was her old boyfriend if the number was blocked and she never answered it?  she just said she knew... .

Now after this little episode that happened to me yesterday i am pretty sure it was her. 

[Splitblack4good]

Funny this thread is up this week.

I received a "blocked number" call yesterday during work.  It was during the 1pm hour which is when my exBPDgf used to always call me when we were still dating.

I answered the call and could hear someone on the other end of the line (even though they did not say anything).  After saying 'hello' and 'anyone there' a couple of times the person then hung up the phone.  Then within a minute i received another "blocked number" call.  Same thing; no response and after about 30 seconds they hung up the phone without saying a word.

My ex used to tell me that one of her old boyfriends who was still after her would call her using a 'blocked number'.  But she said she never answered it.  I remember asking her at the time how in the world she knew it was her old boyfriend if the number was blocked and she never answered it?  she just said she knew... .

Now after this little episode that happened to me yesterday i am pretty sure it was her. 

That's very interesting what you were saying about a time of day your ex would normaly ring as the 2 calls I got today are around about the times when she is free to talk and not dealing with the kids etc .I had another call today also that's 2 now in the space of 12 hours the last one I didn't answer for the simple fact I have ignored her texts today aswell .

Also the only people that ring me on an unknown number is my mum from her house phone and if I don't answer she always leaves a voicemail the others I get are normaly some form of sales again followed up by a voice mail even if it's blank . And neither did I get a voice mail and neither would call at the time of the day the calls came in .


I'm going to see what happens tonite ?

[FrenchConnection]

It's the 12 days of Christmas... .  : )

[hope2727]

Its amazing how consistent they all are. I received a bunch of blocked call numbered call a few weeks back. I rarely keep my cell phone on me anymore either at work or school so I didn't pick them up but there was no message. So strange. I wish in truth that he would just grab his nerve and actually call me. Oh well if wishes were fishes we'd all cast nets I suppose.