This time BPD Sister is using Linked In to try to Poke I am ok.

[funfunctional]

At least my kids aren't on Linked In.   Woke up this morning to an e-mail from BPD sister trying to add me to Linked In profile.  I had to head up my x husband and his wife that they may be next. (just like she did with Facebook).   

I have been no contact with her for months and I know she is still pill popping and drinking and no remorse for how she treated me.   She doesn't get it.    What is really really sad is that she does this at night.   She is clearly drinking and doing this.   

Very disturbing to watch someone that you do love do this.   BUT you know she is toxic and until she loses the co-dependant alcoholic boyfriend and stops drinking and pill popping this won't change.   I can't be part of it.

Is there any hope?    IDK      How she ended up like this IDK.     I guess I could see the patterns of mental illness early on.  I had an old family friend call me and ask what was up with her.  She sees her facebook posts.   Her comment to me was "when your mom was alive she always said she was violent".

Agree.

 

[HappyChappy]

Sorry to hear about your sister. On the upside - at least others will understand your position, and see through any smear campaigns. With NPD they hide it so well, they have the crowed on their side all the time. A friend was telling me her family has been doing facebook strops etc... .the other day, I think its being close to X-Mas.

When I blocked my NPD bro LinkedIn advance, I got a spate of Linkedin people called "Mr King" and "Mrs Lord", both with no contacts wanting to LinkIN. I'm a business owner, so wary that a NPD (or competitor) would love a customer listing to reak havok with. Good thing we're onto them... .

Sorry to hear about your sister, but from your other posts, sounds like you been a good sister to her. That's all you can do, no more.

[Kwamina]

What is really really sad is that she does this at night.   She is clearly drinking and doing this.    

Very disturbing to watch someone that you do love do this.   BUT you know she is toxic and until she loses the co-dependant alcoholic boyfriend and stops drinking and pill popping this won't change.   I can't be part of it.

This is very sad indeed. But like HappyChappy said you can only do what you can and nothing more. Maybe your sister will change someday but that's up to her. In spite of everything, it is clear that you do still love her and that only makes it harder seeing her do this to herself.

Is there any hope?    IDK      How she ended up like this IDK.     I guess I could see the patterns of mental illness early on.  I had an old family friend call me and ask what was up with her.  She sees her facebook posts.   Her comment to me was "when your mom was alive she always said she was violent".

This question is probably something many of us on here ask themselves. No matter how many years have passed or how much has happened, in the back of your head you might still entertain some hope of things getting better some day. Who knows, perhaps it will,  but based on what you've been through so far, I think you're absolutely right for not wanting to be a part of this and keeping your distance. Especially since your kids are involved. First facebook and now LinkedIn, what's next? Not pleasant at all that you're having to deal with this right now but perhaps you can look at it as a test to see how far you've come. Particularly at these times we really need to apply all the new skills we've learned to stay calm and defend our boundaries.

[funfunctional]

Hello Happy Chappy,

People don't all get it.  They see the smear campaign but many see her as the victim she has painted.  Poor her!  They really don't know why.

I told my aunt that I am close to about the linked in and she said to me "maybe she is trying to connect with me?".     My response was "I am going to keep my glasses CLEAR".    I am not sugar coating or screwing around with this mamby pamby nonsense of dreaming that she is trying to make up with me.  That is so silly.

But this is how people think when they don't have to deal with a BPD in their lives.  They don't get it.

Thanks for saying I was a good sister.  I have been and supported her an put up with so much and just gave up.  Too much of a drain on me.   But I tried.

[funfunctional]

Hi,  Just adding to this post I started.   Looks like she has tried to add my teen daughter on Linked in.  I don't want her near my daughter.   My daughter is a relationship in my life that is so important.   I don't have a lot of family.    Very upset and I do feel threatened she is trying to connect with her cause she is a "divider" and tries to get in between people and cause issues.   She is trying.  I know what she is doing.

Want her to go away!

[Deb]

Can you report her to Linked In? I think there is a way to do that. Adding a child mighjt violate their rules.