Hey guys thank you for the replies but I actually broke up with her back in December and a lot more happened between us after that. To answer your question yes she is the one that told me that her boyfriend was okay with it. She could've been lying but I'm not certain, I had no contact with this guy because he is 15 and it was someone she was in school with. I'm not sure about the title
, the moderator here changed it, I have absolutely no idea if she cheated on me or not when we were dating. It's possible. She would never own up to anything she did anyway. Really this thread didn't need to be bumped so since it was I'll go ahead and tell the rest of the story.
I broke up with her late December, and she basically tried to play the victim. I kept trying to "mend" things between us since we had to work together, by letting her know that even though we weren't together anymore I wanted us to be able to interact with each other so we wouldn't have any problems. One of the nights we worked together I gave her a ride home from work and in the car I tried explaining to her that I didn't want to end our relationship but I waited and waited for things to change first. They didn't. She reacted by yelling at me and refusing to have a conversation about it. She just sat there with her arms crossed. Trust was definitely a big issue. I felt like her telling me about her sexual past was a big mistake, as it was something that stayed in the back of my mind.
One of the first red flags was when she was complaining to me about having to work, and I basically told her she may as well be thankful to be making money and she should start thinking like an adult. Her reply was that she just wanted to have fun and that no one would ever stop her from having fun. I asked her about what kind of fun she was referring to. She just said "Parties" and I began to wonder then if this was really the right person for me. There's nothing wrong with parties. I was her age at one point and I did that stuff too but she already had shown me she wasn't trust worthy when she told me about the orgies with her and her room mate. She would tell me two different things that she only got buzzed at parties then I had asked her if she liked to dance and her reply was "only when I'm drunk".
After we broke up she got into a relationship with a girl that lasted a few weeks, and then in one with a guy right after that that lasted for a few days. I'm not sure what happened with either of these I just saw/overheard about them for the duration that we were working together. She's really no longer in my life but we still texted each other while all of this went on. She is a serial dater, and jumps in and out of relationships quickly. Either the person leaves them or she leaves the other person. I do have a fair idea of what happened with the guy, I went to his facebook and saw him moaning about not being able to trust someone anymore. So if that gives anyone a good idea
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The only reason I kept in touch with her because she had a book (despite numerous people telling me NO don't continue talking to her and just forget the book) of mine. She refused to give me my book until I gave her a shirt back that she bought me. She bought me this shirt after the first time we slept together back in November. I wasn't keen on it since I got to pick out the shirt, and keyword she bought it for me. She continually referred to it as "her" shirt. I would tell her that I was ready to give it back and she would stall longer, to hold onto the book. Then she called me the derogatory word for a black person and told me she only got with me to see if she really hated black people or not. Personally I feel like she said these things out of bitterness, as she told a co-worker after I broke up with her that she really liked me
I was finally able to get my book back but it was hard not to snap at her when she gave me my book back. We didn't speak to each other and I haven't really seen her sense then but we have texted each other back and forth. Nothing good by any means, but I'm doing my best to drop contact with her. Just thought I would share the bits that were missing and fill in what happened after we broke up. Thanks
