just wont give up.

[mitchell16]

ive been broken up with my BPDexgf sine about june and i have been strict nc since august when a phone call we was having went bad. I then told her I never wanted to hear from her again and hung up on her. I then went strick nc. since then I have been over loaded with texts, calls and emails. some almost begging me back and some hateful. shes has came to my job and came to my home late at night when i wasnt there. i have not reponded to anything during all this. well I had went about a week and thought she had finally got it out of her system when I get a text yesturday with her insulting me as a father, calling me a disgusting human being, and ranting and insulting me in general. its been several months almost 4 since any contact do they ever get tired? IM really I havent responded to anything and she still persists. has anyone had this happen to them?

[razemarie]

Yes, this sounds very similar to my situation.  We broke up for good back in March and he still continues to call, email and text on a regular basis begging me to come back.  There are also days he hates me and blames me for destroying his life and chances of being a family.  I have set up boundaries in this area and have seen a slight improvement with time in the intensity and amount of communication from him.  But it's still a struggle.  Unfortunately I have a son with my ex, so I can't go completely NC.  But all communication is limited to our son and I respond on MY time and on MY terms.  Stick to NC, no matter what is said.  She wants a reaction out of you.  The bummer is that if you reply, you will just get drawn back in to the drama. 

[1989]

Mitchell,

I have followed your story for the past two years.  Keep doing what you're doing.  I can tell you are in a much better place.  And, yes, she will eventually give up.  This is the first time you have stuck to NC and she's scared.  I am quite certain she would go back to her old ways again, so you know there is no reason to respond.  Just keep on the path you have chosen for yourself.  Imagine actually enjoying Christmas this year!