Mother with BPD

[Cali0702]

Hi! I just checked into this site in hopes that I could find some useful information.  I have searched for years for a name or a title to explain the relationships my mom has, and my experiences with her.  I've come to my own conclusion that she has BPD.  6 failed marriages, multiple homes, massive amounts of churches that we bounced around to in my childhood... .And a lack of true connection with her.  Recently I have been reunited with a "step brother" from one of her marriages after 20 years of separation. The connection I am getting from him and information from our childhood is bringing back so many memories. My mother has only me as a friend and family member;  (leaving me with a lot of guilt if I decide a relationship with her is no longer healthy for me) Nobody else has stuck around. I'm worried that pursing this relationship with my step brother is going to bring me to a place in my life that I can no longer deny how unhealthy my mom is.  Confronting her is my biggest challenge and fear, but the more I learn the more I feel I won't have a choice.

[clljhns]

Hi Cali0702 and  ,

So glad you are here!

I'm worried that pursing this relationship with my step brother is going to bring me to a place in my life that I can no longer deny how unhealthy my mom is.  Confronting her is my biggest challenge and fear, but the more I learn the more I feel I won't have a choice.

This is a really tough position to be in and emotionally draining. Can you tell me a little more about your relationship with mom?

What have you experienced with mom that has led you to believe mom is BPD?

Looking forward to hearing from you.

Wishing you all the best.