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dobie
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« on: December 26, 2014, 06:19:10 PM »

OK my x fiance  of now  three months post BU now decided out the blue to text me.

" I hope you are having a nice xmass x"

As I didn't remember her number I asked "who is this" ?

She replied " how immature"

Now since the BU she had shown little to no concern for me or my feelings , I'm pretty sure she left because she found a replacement she wanted to date . my qurstion is this I want to text her

"Its not  fair on your new lover you are texting your x  fiance of six year please respect both of us and don't do this again thanks ."

Good bad idea or stay NC? I want her to know I'm not a chump and won't stand for her nonsense
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Who in your life has "personality" issues: Romantic Partner
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« Reply #1 on: December 26, 2014, 08:13:36 PM »

NC !
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« Reply #2 on: December 26, 2014, 09:24:46 PM »

What I just heard in your question . . ...

=====================

Dear Group,

I see that sharks are circling the beach.

Would this be a good time to go for a swim?

Thanks!

======================

Answer:

Yeah, sure, jump in, the water is fine!

Smiling (click to insert in post)

come on, you already know better -- else you would not be asking.

So good job on posting here instead of texting back.

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dobie
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« Reply #3 on: December 27, 2014, 01:24:55 AM »

What I just heard in your question . . ...

=====================

Dear Group,

I see that sharks are circling the beach.

Would this be a good time to go for a swim?

Thanks!

======================

Answer:

Yeah, sure, jump in, the water is fine!

Smiling (click to insert in post)

come on, you already know better -- else you would not be asking.

So good job on posting here instead of texting back.

Lol thanks , this is the first "human" response I have had from her since she left and painted me black

I don't know if she is trying to re-engage or simply "guilt easing"
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