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December 26, 2014, 06:19:10 PM »
OK my x fiance of now three months post BU now decided out the blue to text me.
" I hope you are having a nice xmass x"
As I didn't remember her number I asked "who is this" ?
She replied " how immature"
Now since the BU she had shown little to no concern for me or my feelings , I'm pretty sure she left because she found a replacement she wanted to date . my qurstion is this I want to text her
"Its not fair on your new lover you are texting your x fiance of six year please respect both of us and don't do this again thanks ."
Good bad idea or stay NC? I want her to know I'm not a chump and won't stand for her nonsense
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NC !
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December 26, 2014, 09:24:46 PM »
What I just heard in your question . . ...
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Dear Group,
I see that sharks are circling the beach.
Would this be a good time to go for a swim?
Thanks!
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Yeah, sure, jump in, the water is fine!
come on, you already know better -- else you would not be asking.
So good job on posting here instead of texting back.
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Quote from: Somewhere on December 26, 2014, 09:24:46 PM
What I just heard in your question . . ...
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Dear Group,
I see that sharks are circling the beach.
Would this be a good time to go for a swim?
Thanks!
======================
Answer:
Yeah, sure, jump in, the water is fine!
come on, you already know better -- else you would not be asking.
So good job on posting here instead of texting back.
Lol thanks , this is the first "human" response I have had from her since she left and painted me black
I don't know if she is trying to re-engage or simply "guilt easing"
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