Decided To Involve My Lawyer

[NonAverageJoe]

I decided to involve my Lawyer. There are possible legal and professional ramifications so it is necessary.

On another Breakup Board (non-BPD related) a guy has posted a story that is so ridiculously similar to mine. I think he may have been my replacement and he may have been dumped.

I have had no direct contact. Though a girl on a dating website with a very simple profile did text me from a fake VOIP# and then go silent.

A few weeks ago I sent an email to my first love that I had been debating for a long time. Tonight I messaged her on Facebook asking her to read, saying I didn't expect a response.

She responded with the fact that she had read it and asked why I contacted her there if I didn't expect a response.

I very bluntly said, "I gave you a good reason to mark my email as junk. It was a big deal for me to convey those thoughts."

She said ok, it was nice to hear I was doing well and admitted to "needing to do a lot of soul searching herself" a few minutes later I debated replying but did not and then she blocked me.

It was an odd interaction. I suspect eventually she and I will speak again but it was nice closure to a break up between a normal immature girl who had conflicted feelings.

Today I feel ok and I remember just how much better even my emotionally immature relationship was with my first love than the one with my previous Ex.

[Somewhere]

So what will your lawyer do?

Bill you $500 and tell you to stop sending notes to crazy chicks? 

I am joking with you, but really what will that do?

[NonAverageJoe]

He's sending a letter saying, "Hey we have proof of you admitting to having this stuff, agreeing to return this stuff and then denying that you have this stuff. Please return it or we will take further action."

He will make a follow up call and I'm hoping it will resolve the scenario.

I've seen her reaction to situations like this before and I believe that she will just drop the stuff off. When she refused to give it back the first time I believe she was trying to get a reaction out of me because as I dropped her stuff of she followed me outside and I drove away without even looking at her. I don't think she thought that everything would go down the way it did. I believe I forced her from triangulation into replacing a lot quicker than she either planned on or if she event wanted to.

Remember, I broke up with her and she feigned like it wasn't what she wanted but she was so impulsive about it that she proved me right.

Also, unless he files the claim for me he is doing this for the cost of a good lunch. We are good friends.

[NonAverageJoe]

I'm waiting for my lawyer to get back into town. I'm moving forward with my life but I want this done. I don't want her to think she has won.

[Rise]

Joe, you had previously posted elsewhere that you were just letting the things she had go, as to avoid interacting with her any more. Did something happen to change you stance?

[NonAverageJoe]

Potential legal conflict from the paperwork. Financial information on a digital device and the fact that I refuse to take this lying down. I turned the other cheek and I want to put this to rest, she'll have no excuse to contact, no passive aggressive victory and no doubt that I'm not going to deal with her BS at all.


Yes I will get satisfaction over the power play but only to drive the nail home that I want no ties, no link and no more games.

My lawyer will handle all interactions. I will stay NC.

[Forestaken]

How much is you stuff worth?

Trust me one letter ain't going to do it.  You'll spend more going back and forth. 

Letters from Lawyers and Judge's orders only empowers them to fight.  It isn't logic.

My Xw and I were ordered not to touch martial assets, then she cleaned out the kids' college fund (60k) and spent it on her L.  Never made to court.

[NonAverageJoe]

I got my stuff back last night after being involved in a strange triangulation attempt that I could have avoided.

Who knows what would have happened if I would have stayed completely silent, going to write about the whole thing later.