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« on: December 28, 2014, 05:52:28 AM »

My fiance split me black and left me 3 months ago since then contact has been minimal I never told her after the BU I still love her and miss her and want her back after she told me she doesn't love me , resents and does not respect me . I've either acted reasonable and understanding or been angry .

I want to tell her how much I still love her and miss her as well as point out all the things she could never trust me about have been shown after the BU to be unfounded .

What would be the consequence of me telling her ? Would it even elicit anything on her emotional radar ?
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« Reply #1 on: December 28, 2014, 10:36:36 AM »

Thats a great question,that id love to know the answer to too!when me and my exBPD were together i never truely told him my feelings for him.i knew that he was scared of feelings and emotions coming into the relationship,so i keeped it to myself.i could tell that he knew i had feelings for him but i never told him that i loved him (evan though i was deeply falling inlove with him)

A month or so after he left i thought what have i got to lose!so i texted him... told him how deep my feelings were for him and that i loved him!i didnt get a reply.i dont know what he thinks of me saying that.may be it made him run for the hills evan more!
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