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Before you can make things better, you have to stop making them worse... Have you considered that being critical, judgmental, or invalidating toward the other parent, no matter what she or he just did will only make matters worse? Someone has to be do something. This means finding the motivation to stop making things worse, learning how to interrupt your own negative responses, body language, facial expressions, voice tone, and learning how to inhibit your urges to do things that you later realize are contributing to the tensions.
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Author Topic: There she was in smiling glory on a getaway weekend  (Read 1010 times)
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« on: December 28, 2014, 05:27:19 PM »

I messed up royally today. Her instagram is private. Today is wasnt and she liked a mutual friends post so like a dumb ass i clicked it. Poof, there she was in smiling glory on a getaway weekend with the replacement. He wasnt in the picture, but i can guess who took it. Sucked the air out of me. Stay NC... .please
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« Reply #1 on: December 28, 2014, 05:29:20 PM »

Don't assume some guy took it Laugh out loud (click to insert in post). Stop thinking so much.
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In the eye for an eye game, he who cares least, wins. I, for one. am never stepping into the ring with someone who is impulsive and doesn't think of the downstream consequences.
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« Reply #2 on: December 28, 2014, 05:50:21 PM »

Don't assume some guy took it Laugh out loud (click to insert in post). Stop thinking so much.

Just kind of shocked me. It's like seeing the boogy man.
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« Reply #3 on: December 28, 2014, 05:58:46 PM »

Don't assume some guy took it Laugh out loud (click to insert in post). Stop thinking so much.

Just kind of shocked me. Fu*k, it's like seeing the boogy man.

hey... your a good guy. You'll be ok.
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In the eye for an eye game, he who cares least, wins. I, for one. am never stepping into the ring with someone who is impulsive and doesn't think of the downstream consequences.
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« Reply #4 on: December 28, 2014, 06:08:02 PM »

Just kind of shocked me.

I remember when I was a little kid, I grabbed one of those electric charcoal starters (yes, it was plugged in). 

I never did it a second time.  Smiling (click to insert in post)
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« Reply #5 on: December 28, 2014, 06:50:51 PM »

Thats a fact. I deleted my account!
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« Reply #6 on: December 28, 2014, 06:57:23 PM »

Just kind of shocked me. It's like seeing the boogy man.

That's exactly what I felt when I saw her for the first time after she left.  My flight or fight response kicked in.  I felt myself start sweating.  I felt panicky and out of control.  It was a feeling like no other I've every experienced but that was my body's way of telling me ":)anger!  Crazy nut job ahead!"

The reptilian brain is pretty wild.
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« Reply #7 on: December 28, 2014, 07:03:37 PM »

Yes it is. And it's job is to protect you... .to keep you safe. Even when you don't see or realise the danger. It is there. Protecting you always. Listen to it.

Override it with your conscious mind?... .at your own peril.
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« Reply #8 on: December 28, 2014, 07:08:51 PM »

Don't be looking at dat dere instagram.
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« Reply #9 on: December 28, 2014, 07:19:40 PM »

Don't be looking at dat dere instagram.

its gone now... .
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« Reply #10 on: December 28, 2014, 07:55:51 PM »

Deeno, don't be hard on yourself. We are human. Not perfect. They hurt us, we are curious... .way to delete.  
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