She's trying to break nc AGAIN

[Infern0]

Ffs is she ever going to get it?

Voicemails galore going into my inbox tonight.  Why can't she just leave me alone?

I'm honestly so annoyed at this now,  she just doesn't learn,  she's STILL with the replacement.  I've told her so much times I don't want to talk to her anymore and wished her luck etc but she just don't get it.

Arghhhhhhhhhhhhhh

[peiper]

There must be trouble in paradise or she perceives upcoming trouble. Mine has done the same. If you can either block her or change your number it might be a good idea. It was rough until I read on the board's that it's all about their need to fill the hole inside of them and not about their love for us.

[Mutt]

Ffs is she ever going to get it?

Voicemails galore going into my inbox tonight.  Why can't she just leave me alone?

I'm honestly so annoyed at this now,  she just doesn't learn,  she's STILL with the replacement.  I've told her so much times I don't want to talk to her anymore and wished her luck etc but she just don't get it.

Arghhhhhhhhhhhhhh

Hi Inferno,

It's frustrating.

It's mental illness. She doesn't have boundaries on the self and doesn't understand other people's boundaries which is prevalent with pwBPD.

You can put boundaries on the self. If she does X, I respond with Y. You can't control what she does (short of a RO) and you can not pick up the phone and let it go to VM.

Eventually she'll understand if she calls you won't pick up, it's also not to say she's not going to test your boundaries from time to time.

[NonAverageJoe]

What was your last interaction with her before this?

[Infern0]

What was your last interaction with her before this?

A convo where I said it's innapropriate for us to have contact while she is with her boyfriend,  she agreed in principle but still raged and then had to go and gave me ST so I went NC

[NonAverageJoe]

Well, I think I'm truly 100% safe now. So, I keep analyzing other events to see.

[ogopogodude]

Ffs is she ever going to get it?

Voicemails galore going into my inbox tonight.  Why can't she just leave me alone?

I'm honestly so annoyed at this now,  she just doesn't learn,  she's STILL with the replacement.  I've told her so much times I don't want to talk to her anymore and wished her luck etc but she just don't get it.

Arghhhhhhhhhhhhhh

You realize that you can "block" her incoming texts or voice calls... ?   With an iPhone 5 and newer, one can go to "settings" and then scroll down to "phone", then hit "block", "add new" then it takes you to contacts list and then scroll down to her contact

But with  iPhone 4's one cannot block incoming calls, for some reason.

[Infern0]

Ffs is she ever going to get it?

Voicemails galore going into my inbox tonight.  Why can't she just leave me alone?

I'm honestly so annoyed at this now,  she just doesn't learn,  she's STILL with the replacement.  I've told her so much times I don't want to talk to her anymore and wished her luck etc but she just don't get it.

Arghhhhhhhhhhhhhh

You realize that you can "block" her incoming texts or voice calls... ?   With an iPhone 5 and newer, one can go to "settings" and then scroll down to "phone", then hit "block", "add new" then it takes you to contacts list and then scroll down to her contact

But with  iPhone 4's one cannot block incoming calls, for some reason.

She is blocked but I still get texts saying I have a voicemail from her number.

Probably need to just get a new sim

[Splitblack4good]

Ffs is she ever going to get it?

Voicemails galore going into my inbox tonight.  Why can't she just leave me alone?

I'm honestly so annoyed at this now,  she just doesn't learn,  she's STILL with the replacement.  I've told her so much times I don't want to talk to her anymore and wished her luck etc but she just don't get it.

Arghhhhhhhhhhhhhh

Inferno how long have you been NC after the silent treatment since your convo about it being inappropriate you talk while she is with the replacement ?

I'm going thru this with my ex at the moment she rang me out the blue Xmas eve and said she didn't want it to be like this between us . I said we need to cut all ties as I didn't want to get in the way of her relationship with my replacement I sent my final text to her day after Boxing Day about transferring something over into her name now we split up . I got no reply to that . It was the sky tv contract I transferred into her name it was the only attachment left I'm now getting the silent treatment since and I've gone NC .

[Infern0]

Ffs is she ever going to get it?

Voicemails galore going into my inbox tonight.  Why can't she just leave me alone?

I'm honestly so annoyed at this now,  she just doesn't learn,  she's STILL with the replacement.  I've told her so much times I don't want to talk to her anymore and wished her luck etc but she just don't get it.

Arghhhhhhhhhhhhhh

Inferno how long have you been NC after the silent treatment since your convo about it being inappropriate you talk while she is with the replacement ?

I'm going thru this with my ex at the moment she rang me out the blue Xmas eve and said she didn't want it to be like this between us . I said we need to cut all ties as I didn't want to get in the way of her relationship with my replacement I sent my final text to her day after Boxing Day about transferring something over into her name now we split up . I got no reply to that . It was the sky tv contract I transferred into her name it was the only attachment left I'm now getting the silent treatment since and I've gone NC .

It's been about a month,  that last conversation was a break in the nc on my part because I'd heard she had been acting strange and flipping out so I just wanted to calm her down but it ended up being a crazy argument with her not making any sense.  I would have spoken to her but she gave the ST and I'm not caving again.

She's had problems since day one with the replacement and always complains about him. We recycled during their relationship but I was like we can't do this.

She tells me she loves me and she knows we are going to be forever etc but HAS a boyfriend,  when I bring up that minor roadblock she tells me it's not going to last and she doesn't know why she's with him but her friends like him and she doesn't want people thinking she's a b___ so she can't leave him yet.

I can stands no more!

[Blimblam]

Inferno do you think that the fact you havnt somehow made it impossible for her to contact you and completely cut ties is because you still somehow derive your self worth from her validation?

[Splitblack4good]

Ffs is she ever going to get it?

Voicemails galore going into my inbox tonight.  Why can't she just leave me alone?

I'm honestly so annoyed at this now,  she just doesn't learn,  she's STILL with the replacement.  I've told her so much times I don't want to talk to her anymore and wished her luck etc but she just don't get it.

Arghhhhhhhhhhhhhh

Inferno how long have you been NC after the silent treatment since your convo about it being inappropriate you talk while she is with the replacement ?

I'm going thru this with my ex at the moment she rang me out the blue Xmas eve and said she didn't want it to be like this between us . I said we need to cut all ties as I didn't want to get in the way of her relationship with my replacement I sent my final text to her day after Boxing Day about transferring something over into her name now we split up . I got no reply to that . It was the sky tv contract I transferred into her name it was the only attachment left I'm now getting the silent treatment since and I've gone NC .

It's been about a month,  that last conversation was a break in the nc on my part because I'd heard she had been acting strange and flipping out so I just wanted to calm her down but it ended up being a crazy argument with her not making any sense.  I would have spoken to her but she gave the ST and I'm not caving again.

She's had problems since day one with the replacement and always complains about him. We recycled during their relationship but I was like we can't do this.

She tells me she loves me and she knows we are going to be forever etc but HAS a boyfriend,  when I bring up that minor roadblock she tells me it's not going to last and she doesn't know why she's with him but her friends like him and she doesn't want people thinking she's a b___ so she can't leave him yet.

I can stands no more!

I don't know and don't think il ever know why my ex rang out the blue Xmas eve and she was upset and said things like I didn't want it to be like this between us and she's  unblocked me from her phone think she just wanted to dump her emotions on me as it was Xmas eve .

She hasn't moaned about my replacement to me only good things said by her to me . But I know they have been arguing a lot in 7 weeks they have been together . I don't think she was trying to triangulate me as I've not heard anything from her since Xmas day wen she told me her head was a mess in response to a text I sent her asking why she rang me the day before all upset . I'm now getting silent treatment and I've gone NC I think she has detached from me now as I transfers over the tv contract over to her name and she doesnt seem fussed by it and that was the last tie we had and she has also stated in her call that once that was transferd she will delete my number ! I guess only time will tell if she contacts me again

[Infern0]

Inferno do you think that the fact you havnt somehow made it impossible for her to contact you and completely cut ties is because you still somehow derive your self worth from her validation?

I don't know man, maybe that's part of it.

Honestly though I just want her out of my life,  I don't want anything to do with her,  I don't want to end up in the sick triangle again.

[Blimblam]

Inferno do you think that the fact you havnt somehow made it impossible for her to contact you and completely cut ties is because you still somehow derive your self worth from her validation?

I don't know man, maybe that's part of it.

Honestly though I just want herout of my life,  I don't want anything to do with her  I don't want to end up in the sick triangle again.

What does "her" mean to you?

[paperlung]

Inferno do you think that the fact you havnt somehow made it impossible for her to contact you and completely cut ties is because you still somehow derive your self worth from her validation?

I don't know man, maybe that's part of it.

Honestly though I just want her out of my life,  I don't want anything to do with her,  I don't want to end up in the sick triangle again.

Just change your number. I did after she replaced me and it put me at ease knowing she wasn't going to be able to contact me anymore... .Until months later when she messaged me on FB with a big apology letter. We weren't even friends, but I guess I forgot to disable the 'Send Message" option for non-friends.

[myself]

She tells me she loves me and she knows we are going to be forever etc but HAS a boyfriend,  when I bring up that minor roadblock she tells me it's not going to last and she doesn't know why she's with him but her friends like him and she doesn't want people thinking she's a b___ so she can't leave him yet.

A) Forever as in she's not going to leave you alone?

B) Shouldn't matter to you if you're done with your r/s with her.

C) Did her friends like you too? Did it really affect her actions then?

D) See B. Then see B again. And so on until you're really done.