Hi PinkPoker,
He said we could never be together because he was too selfish. He also said he didn't know what love was and he wouldn't want to be someone's security blanket or on the rebound. When I split with my ex he said I needed to find myself and not get into other relationships Etc.
He lacks a stable sense of self. He sounds sincere when he's telling you he may not fulfill your needs.
Your choice if you want to get into another r/s.
The issue I have and am struggling to deal with is how he's gone into a relationship with a women who was going to get married and has two kids. I'm sure and have heard she is a nice girl but surely he wouldn't want to be a rebound? Surely he'd be scared she'd go back to her ex. The other weird thing was Mr BPD was still friends with Her ex until yesterday. None of it makes sense to me.
His belief system is distorted. His mind is like a Rubik's cube.
He lacks impulse control. Thoughts of one's consequences and actions and learning from choices. Acts impulsively.
If she has two kids, there's nothing wrong with that?
Actions speak louder than words. He said for you to not be in a rebound. Take away the words, look at his actions. The truth lies there. Do as I say not as I preach.
His choice whom he wants to be involved with. You had a history together. I'm sorry this is difficult
I'm worried about the girl and kids. He has a nasty streak to him. He's also just lost his mum. It sounds like a disaster but he did tell me he loved her once before when we weren't such close friends too.
You know the Dr. Jekyl Mr. Hyde. On the other hand they are both adults and have choices with whom they want to be involved with or not. Their path.
