About 6 months ago I slowly and in a boring manner limited contact with my adult u?PD SD, who in addition to my uBPDs has caused enormous pain in my life.
Decades spent working with a therapist to try to cope with the constant verbal abuse, slander and harassment to do more, more, more on top of dealing with medical problems and eldercare. I am through. I'm taking my life back
I don't want to lay on my deathbed wondering why I never had a life free of grasping people. I've become paranoid, isolated and the thought of people getting close to me makes me ill and anxious. In the past few months without contact, there has been an opportunity for me to wear make-up, sleep better, do relaxation tapes, begin exercising and spend time with some of my very positive friends I haven't seen in awhile.
My husband has had to pick up the slack with his daughter and feels put in the middle. She is suddenly demanding an explanation for the change. In the past few months, I've stated my issues verbally and in writing, which she replied by calling me and her father liars and that if I wasn't sick for even 2 hours I should be helping her.
She lets no one speak. Her husband as never finished a story. She will yell and argue until she gets her way and she isn't going to get what she wants. My husband wants me to "explain it to her" to get him off the hook. I said no. The last thing I want to do is add to her misery, but I see nothing but added conflict ahead. Does anyone with experience have some input. I'm open. Did I mention I'm having fantasies about moving to another city and changing my name? Did I mention that I have 2 BPD/PD relatives. It used to be three.
