Lesser degrees?

[she-is-hot-though]

Is it possible to have say a "medium" bad level of BPD?  Definitely destructive , but not flat out, grab your keys and head for the mountains immediately bad.  I see hope in my girlfriend ,but only if she will obviously decides to help herself instead of listing all my issues concisely for me. 

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[Tim300]

Guess you won't know until you commit to something like engagement, moving in, marriage, or having a child; at which point she'll start sexually pursuing your friends openly and will begin physically attacking you and threatening to kill you just to see how you'll react.  Note that the abusive behaviors often don't kick in until you make a major commitment.  You would never suspect her of behaving this way, but you just wait . . .   

Maybe there's a way to speak with her exes or get previous divorce papers or something, just to see how bad it might get.   

[EaglesJuju]

Hi She-is-hot-though, 

Welcome aboard.

BPD is a spectrum disorder, meaning that there is variance with intensity and behavior.  There are commonalities with the behavior, but individual traits and characteristics influence behavior.

What types of behavior are you experiencing with your girlfriend?

[Mutt]

 

Hi she-is-hot-though,

I would like to join Tim300 and EaglesJuJu and welcome you. EaglesJuJu's right. It's a spectrum disorder.

What's the back-story?

She's saying you have the lion's share of the problems in the r/s?