Light in the darkness...

[crazedncrazymom]

Hi everyone,

I wanted to check in on you all and give an update on dd17.  For a reminder:  :)D has tried to commit suicide 4 times, in and out of hospitals, rtc for a  year and hospitalized every 6 weeks since she came home in august 2013 until October 2014 (her last hospitalization)  Yes folks... .it has been almost 4 months since her last suicide attempt or hospitalization for suicidal ideation.  She reports she feels better and dare I say it... .HAPPY?   I called my cousin a couple of months ago and told her that my daughter seemed happy and she just cried and cried. It's been so long... .so very very long since I saw my dd happy without it being a precursor to a suicide attempt. DD is turning 18 in April.  She's on track to graduate and is planning on going to college (community college, then 4 year and then law school).

What's different?  We moved to another state far away from everyone.  I stopped counseling, which I didn't find to be at all helpful and we stopped all medication, which also wasn't helpful.  I realized doctors were prescribing these pills and insisting that she take them because they didn't know what else to do for her.  No more.  I continue to use all of the tools and lessons I've learned here.  I think the most important thing is that I've really had to learn who I am and what I stand for.  Finding my values and boundaries and holding onto them no matter what, has probably been the most difficult and most beneficial thing for me.

I've been thinking of you all and want to thank all of you for the encouragement, support and knowledge I gained here.

-crazed

Our objective is to better understand the struggles our child faces and to learn the skills to improve our relationship and provide a supportive environment and also improve on our own emotional responses, attitudes and effectiveness as a family leaders

[Eggdad]

Wow, that great Crazed! I'm so glad for both of you. I also had a moment last month, after my 22 yo dd handled a difficult situation in a very mature and non-BPD way, when I felt a major milestone had been reached and I could stop worrying all the time. I felt like I had unloaded a backpack full of rocks that I had been carrying for the past 15 years. Congratulations to you and to your dd, you know you both deserve it.

[jellibeans]

Dear crazed

What great news... .I am so happy to hear you and your dd are doing so well. The move seems to be a real key to getting her on the right track. Wishing you all the best for the future.

[qcarolr]

Crazed 

I am so happy with you for how things are working out. It sounds like the move helped you all reset and begin anew. You know what to do, and are confident in your ability to relate in a healthy way with your D.

Thanks for sharing this good news with us.

qcr

[pessim-optimist]

Wow Crazed, what a wonderful outcome! I am so happy for you and your dd. Just in time before she turns 18, wasn't it?

I think the most important thing is that I've really had to learn who I am and what I stand for.  Finding my values and boundaries and holding onto them no matter what, has probably been the most difficult and most beneficial thing for me.

That is a very powerful statement, Crazed. I assume it helped your dd as well. If you feel like it, would you share some examples with us of what boundaries were the most beneficial and how you have held onto them?

[Rapt Reader]

That is a very powerful statement, Crazed. I assume it helped your dd as well. If you feel like it, would you share some examples with us of what boundaries were the most beneficial and how you have held onto them?

I'm with pessim-optimist, here... .Do tell, crazedncrazymom 

And I'd like to welcome you back, along with everyone else... .Success stories are always welcome here, and we all love to learn with one another. Thanks for the update