Funny to people like us: a wedding "invite" for narcissistic parents

[Cheshire]

I found this on distractify.com. I know those of you with narcissistic parents will find this funny.

www.news.distractify.com/avericlements/we-invite-you-to-suck-it/

Don't think I would have the huevos to actually send one of these, but it's still very good. 

[clljhns]

  Cheshire,

Whoa!   Whether we fantasize or actually do say such things to our parents, I would not be one to air my feelings so publicly. It does help to find an outlet to vent our frustration, though, so I can appreciate it from that perspective.

Be well.

[claudiaduffy]

We wrote one almost just like that to my husband's uBPDm when her fiance invited us to their wedding (with a note from her in the envelope that was... .uh... .typical of her notes. FOGging attempts, you know.) And then we didn't send that one, just a little "We wish you all the best and will not be attending." But writing it out IS cathartic, as was reading the one you posted!

[Forever to Roam]

My husband found this about a week ago and showed it to me, saying "This is what we should've done! That's awesome."

It's not something I would've had the guts to do, and certainly not at that time (I was still doing absolutely everything in my power to please her... .including leaving my husband... .ugh). Instead, some time after her telling me that she wouldn't come to my wedding and she wouldn't let my sisters come either, I figured why bother with all the big crap if my sisters can't even come? So we called his parents and we went down to the courthouse and got married.

A couple years later we were getting sealed (basically getting married again). I want to share what I wrote and her response:

"Hi Mom and Dad,

I have news, [hubby] and I are going to get sealed on [this date] in the temple. We feel impressed that we should invite the whole family to come. I would love for most of my family to be there, however, I will be completely honest and tell you that the thought of having Mom there scares me, to the point of panic. Nonetheless, if she could come under the right conditions, it would be a step in the right direction.

Yes, there are conditions, and it would be best if these conditions could apply to all conversations from here on: please, do not ask for explanations of our decisions, or lecture on the explanations of your decisions - this includes merely asking if I understand or saying that you do not understand. It is time to for us move on into a positive relationship.

If any of you can be truthfully and sincerely supportive of [hubby] and my marriage and the commitment that we are making and if any of you can be happy to have [hubby] sealed into our family, then we invite you to come and show that support.

I love you all very much.

[FTR]"

With the response of:

"Got it.  No worries.  No lecture.  No comments.  No relationships.  No immediate family.   No [FTR]'s mother.   No reconciliation.  All this means no problems.  It will all be just as you desire.  God's blessings be upon you.

Love,

Mom"

That messed me up for a long time, wondering how I could have gotten things so wrong and what I could have done differently.