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Throughout our marriage, my wife has exhibited what now appears to me to be signs and symptoms of BPD.  It comes and goes, but everyone in the family has been  walking on egg-shells - especially me.  It comes out at me, family, and others.   It actually had not been so bad for the past 6-8 months, and there have been fewer and more short-lived episodes - mostly ending quicker that usual.  However, over the past few weeks and through this past weekend, there were a number of particularly nasty incidents - directed both at me and at others.  Today, I started "googling" and stumbled upon "BPD".  So much of what I have read about BPD fits her behavior, and especially the video "what is it" on the bpdfamily website -  which fits her to a "T".

I do not know whether it is "just" symptoms or actual BPD - but at least now I finally have an address to go to.

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Throughout our marriage, my wife has exhibited what now appears to me to be signs and symptoms of BPD.  It comes and goes, but everyone in the family has been  walking on egg-shells - especially me.  It comes out at me, family, and others.   It actually had not been so bad for the past 6-8 months, and there have been fewer and more short-lived episodes - mostly ending quicker that usual.  However, over the past few weeks and through this past weekend, there were a number of particularly nasty incidents - directed both at me and at others.  Today, I started "googling" and stumbled upon "BPD".  So much of what I have read about BPD fits her behavior, and especially the video "what is it" on the bpdfamily website -  which fits her to a "T".

I do not know whether it is "just" symptoms or actual BPD - but at least now I finally have an address to go to.

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I am glad you found us.

OK... .so I just want to make sure I understand correctly.  Today you found BPD on the internet... .and also found bpdfamily in the same day? 

Just over a year ago I had a counselor (a T in online lingo) tell me my wife had traits of BPD.  Shortly after I found bpdfamily and  got on with making my life and relationship better.

Few quick things


https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?topic=56206

Look to the right of the screen... .do you see the lessons.  Focus on reading those for a bit.  Post your questions over here.  There is a link above if you need help navigating.

For now... don't let your wife know what you suspect or that you are doing research online.  Think about your computer security.  If you let her know incorrectly... many times it goes really bad.   Tons of stories on here about that happening.

Tell us more about the thing she does... .and... .more importantly... .how you respond.

We can help you get your life back in order.

[Tim300]

For now... don't let your wife know what you suspect or that you are doing research online.  

Ditto this.  I would not let her know that you're on to this.  Perhaps at some point that will be advisable (or maybe never).  In any event, for now, hold off.  In the meantime, you might be able to put yourself at a major informational advantage.  Like the video you watched, you will find books about BPD to be eye-popping -- as if the authors had been following you and your wife around at all times for years.  Finally you will be able to make some sense of all the nonsense.