So my BPD exgf has been nice lately and she said to be I can't beleive it's over it's like I woke up from a bad dream
and we did not live togeatheir anymore.mind you we have been split up for 2years and I still see her 4times a month because of are son.i just have a hard time believing she did not know how to reach out and say sorry? Any ideas on this dream theory ?
There could be some truth to it. I've been reading older posts from years ago on this site and one person was mentioning this exact same thing. The exBPDgf said it all felt like a dream to her and she had no idea why she did what she did. Her words, "I can't tell you why I did it, it just seemed like a dream." When her ex asked her why she didn't call and say sorry she said something along the lines of she felt so badly for what she had done, she didn't know how to call and say it.
So I do think sometimes it is the case. I suspect sometimes my ex may be in this type of situation. In the past when I would call her on her behavior she would say she had no idea why she did what she did and she hereself was not proud of her actions.
I can tell you now, if she wasn't proud of some things in the past, she is probably burning with shame over last year's actions. And well she should... .