Hi Patch. Thank you for sharing your story.
Mine was similar on the expression end, telling me; "I really do love you". It was as though she had to convince herself of having real feelings of love towards me. From what I understand, BPD people have such a hard time tapping into their true emotions of love that it can be somewhat foreign and surprising to them when they actually do, if even for a moment. Usually this is when they pull back and push away. This often follows with them sabotaging what little life in the relationship remains.
Yes... .my ex once told me that she doesn't think she's ever loved anyone. How sad.
Hi jhkbuzz. There are so many parallels here. When I told mine that I unconditionally loved her. Her response was that she did not know what unconditional love is. She also said that she did not know her own self value/worth. How very sad.