Hello
Happy Easter everyone!.
So I show up to my very good friends house for an easter bbq. I walk in and the girls are cooking thier butts off , I offer to help and start slicing eggs to make deviled eggs. And then another female walks in (a guest of my friends) with her two kids S4 D7. Eveything seems cool for a minute. This female guest starts walking in and out of the house and im on the couch she stares me down several times. Then in walks her H and out of no where she rages on him over leaving her alone... (He walked outside to get a soda gone a few minutes). And then she runs into a bedroom and we all hear her crying. Of course her H walks in to the bedroom after her.
A short while later he comes out and a 10 min later she comes out and they both walk outside their kids are still in the house with us playing with their easter basket toys. . Everthing seems cool again. (Not so much) This female guest walks back in the house alone and sees her daughter ( 7 yrs old) using the glitter glue from her easter basket to glue plastic easter eggs to a pink car that was also from her easter basket. And her mother( the female guest) started screaming at the top of her lungs at her D7 saying "you ruined your toys , why would you ruin your toys." Over and over. My friend (the home owner) said she didnt ruin it she made it pretty.
The female guest ran back into the bedroom crying. A few minutes later the female guest H walks in ask where his wife is . Someone said she back in the bedroom. Of he goes after her again. A little later one by one they come out of the room.
Everthing seems cool down again. Remember every time this female guest walks in and out of the room she stares at me like a deer in headlights. By now every one is uncomfortable and saying what the hell. A few minutes later this female gues and her H are arguing out side about how he is never supportive/there of/for her and she could have married this other guy but she chose him. Her children are from another guy not her current H. The argument goes quite and the H walks in an sit on the couch im sitting on. I say to the guy man I went the same thing you are experiencing you should really research PD'S. He says she is diagnosed BPD. Woah! I got chills at that moment. Hair stood up on my arm.
We talk about what we just discovered we have in common.(The H seems like such a good dude) The H gets up from the couch after a little bit goes back outside and there the female( confirmed BPD) goes again arguing with her H for leaving her outside alone.(again) The H ends up getting in his vehicle and leaving because the BPDer was screaming at him to leave. A few minutes later she comes in the house almost sit in my lap( i was alone on the couch) and starts telling me how horrible her H was. He is verbally and physically abusive towards her and so on. And how hot she thinks i am and I should give her a ride home. People from the bbq are leaving because of her behavior. I just said im sorry you are having a bad day but this is none of my business , I excuse myself and go grab some food.
see ya!
Someone immediately gave her and her kids a ride home.
As soon as the drama started I called the sequence of events that was about to unfold to my friends. .
I tried talking to these same friends about my experience a long time ago and they just didnt understand UNTILL TODAY.
I was missing my dexBPDgf / best friend so so much this weekend. And then this happens and I dont miss her at all today. Holy crap THANK YOU BPDex for the most valuable lessions you have tought me and what ive learned because of our r/s .
This happened over a 5 hr period i condensed it. Being on the outside lookiing in was pretty surreal I must say.
