Almost 90 Days NC

[NonAverageJoe]

Almost ninety days NC and I get a call about her oil change appointment tomorrow at nine am. I'm not triggered and I'm completely fine.

I'm posting here because I wanted to call her and say, "Please remove my number from all your accounts. I'm not handling things for you anymore and I don't want to be reminded of you."

[ReclaimingMyLife]

Kudos to you for not making that call!

[Mutt]

I got a call for her ultrasound appointment and was asked if they could reach my ex. I gave them her cell and advised to not call my number as we're seperated. It made me wonder why she wouldn't update her number for an important appointment.

Either way, I simply gave the correct contact info so they can update their records and circumvent calling ex and telling her to minimize the chance of conflict. I agree it's her stuff and she should take care of it.

[ReclaimingMyLife]

I got several calls from my ex's doctor's office.  But I figured if I didn't return the call they'd eventually quit calling me.  Which they did.  I decided ANY response (even me calling the doctor's office directly) could somehow get back to him and reinforce his (bad) behavior.  GOOD FOR YOU!  I keep reminding myself NO RESPONSE = NO RESPONSE    

[ReclaimingMyLife]

Oh yeah, the one time I actually accepted a call from the doctor's office it was exBPDbf on the phone!  Learned from that one

[NonAverageJoe]

Yeah. No anger, stress or frustration just a minor annoyance.

[ReclaimingMyLife]

A-MEN!  Peace is possible. 

I am at day #83 since I responded to UxBPDbf.  Today is day #10 of NC from his end (the longest he has gone since I ended r/s).  Woo-hoo!

Tomorrow is the one year anniversary of the day we met.  I am PRAYING we get through the day with NO CONTACT from him.  Fingers crossed.