are BPDs capable of saying this ?

[Before you can make things better, you have to stop making them worse...]

my ex did say something very similar to that. I think she just want to show off as though she is willing to sacrifice her own happiness so that we will be happy. Trying to be the martyr.

Lol my x said she had to BU and be the strong one 

[dobie]

my ex did say something very similar to that. I think she just want to show off as though she is willing to sacrifice her own happiness so that we will be happy. Trying to be the martyr.

Lol my x said she had to BU and be the strong one 

[dobie]

"I'm sorry I hurt you, I know nothing I can say will make you feel better but you are a great guy who has a lot to offer and you will meet someone who loves you and makes you very happy."

I believe dobie in the moment that what is written was heartfelt and real and all she was capable of in that moment. 

That ^ may very well be. 'Heartfelt and the best she could do', but still devaluing and devoid of responsibility nonetheless.  And without therapeutic intervention, that's what it would always be.  That's the nature of the disorder, isn't it? 

It's almost the apology of a child.

That's why I love this site and the members just when I get hit by the fog you guys remind me how abnormal she is ...

Yes that's her an angry child looking for someone or something to fill the pain

[Sandman1881]

Honestly, I believe there to be a communication "bug" in the Borderline system. It may take months or even years to organize and communicate a simple though. When delivered, that heartfelt note or comment will always come with a stench of sarcasm and hidden innuendo.

[JPH]

I remember reaching a point shortly after the smear campaign began when I realized that (1) my ex was capable of doing and saying pretty much anything and (2) it was in my best interest for purposes of self-preservation to expect her to do anything and everything. After I adopted that mindset her unpredictability became predictable in a way.