I would love to hear from anyone for advice on dealing, managing life, and feeling loved again.
A little distance makes a heart fonder... . if its true love.
Yeah, sometimes I think there is some truth to that. In an enmeshed relationship it becomes hard to have enough distance to truly perceive the partner and love them. And in an enmeshed relationship it is hard to love your partner if you don't love yourself. And pwBPD do struggle a lot with themselves. A little distance or even better proper boundaries can sometimes work wonders. Often recovering respect comes before recovering love.
A general path to recovery is laid out in the LESSONS (see waveriders link).
I feel like I'm last, I always have tried to help and support him but I don't no how to get through... .
This is complex until you have developed a deeper understanding of BPD and practiced enough validation to judge where he is emotionally. Then it becomes often quite simple. At times the best you can do is not to help and simply step back. At times the best you can do is to provide the right words - and some may not be positive. At times he needs TLC. BPD is quite situational and a good first step is developing a better map through validation.