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DestroyedKnight
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What the hell?
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April 13, 2015, 01:17:53 PM »
Just about to set off for work this morning and my undiagnosed BPD ex girl posts this quote on her facebook wall
He might make her cry,but nobody makes her smile like he does
he might make her mad but nobody can make her laugh like he does
he might stress her out but nobody can make her happier than he does
although it may feel like the right thing to do to leave him,she just feels so wrong without him because nothing makes sense
nothing feels the way its supposed to,nothing feels right,but with him it's just something she can't explain
Although it might feel like hell when they argue,when they are getting along it feels perfect.
A few moments after posting this a new friend of hers pops up commenting on the post saying "sounds like you still love him?"
Moments later she replies "it's hard not to love him"
I sat there thinking surely this is not about me,nope definitely not,it has to be about someone else.And literally 5 minutes after posting it she then deletes the entire post
Come home from work tonight and she has yet again updated her fb relationship status to in a relationship and this must be about the 10th time she has changed it since ending it with me
What the hell is going on?
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mitatsu
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Re: What the hell?
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April 13, 2015, 02:21:55 PM »
Mind games my friend... .be strong and see it for what it is... the child wants the toy she cannot have
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Mike-X
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What if it was about you?
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zundertowz
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April 13, 2015, 02:33:06 PM »
Im not trying to make you feel bad but it seems like she has plenty of new drama going on... .your just torturing yourself!
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DestroyedKnight
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Quote from: mitatsu on April 13, 2015, 02:21:55 PM
Mind games my friend... .be strong and see it for what it is... the child wants the toy she cannot have
So so hard not to respond though mate
. I know she wants a reaction and for me to do what I was doing in the beginning when we first split and kick up a fuss that she is seeing someone else but I am bigger and stronger than that now.An email to me? no a phone call? no a text? no just post after endless post on her facebook wall which means nothing to me after the hell she put me through after 9 years of hearing you're my soulmate,I never want to lose you,I love you with all my heart
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DestroyedKnight
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Quote from: zundertowz on April 13, 2015, 02:33:06 PM
Im not trying to make you feel bad but it seems like she has plenty of new drama going on... .your just torturing yourself!
No you are right I am torturing myself and I do need to stop.Yes she is a drama queen and relies on her new found fb buddies to back her up and validate her but all her drama is aimed at me and getting a reaction which she is now not getting.As soon as she see's I am happy she then starts trying to make me jealous or calling me names expecting me to be angry and say something.Even messaging me one day asking me why I called her when I never did and I ignored her yet again
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Quote from: DestroyedKnight on April 13, 2015, 02:33:20 PM
Quote from: mitatsu on April 13, 2015, 02:21:55 PM
Mind games my friend... .be strong and see it for what it is... the child wants the toy she cannot have
So so hard not to respond though mate
. I know she wants a reaction and for me to do what I was doing in the beginning when we first split and kick up a fuss that she is seeing someone else but I am bigger and stronger than that now.An email to me? no a phone call? no a text? no just post after endless post on her facebook wall which means nothing to me after the hell she put me through after 9 years of hearing you're my soulmate,I never want to lose you,I love you with all my heart
i get you completely on all that BUT we are better than these 'keyboard chameleons' we dont play with the feelings of others like a child plays with a toy until it gets bored... it's a struggle i know but not long in the future your head will be so high whilst hers will still be full of toxic sludge... .be brave and strong fellow Bpd Warrior
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Re: What the hell?
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April 13, 2015, 03:15:38 PM »
Mine did the same nonsense just a million times weirder and worse. Mind games for sure. When I questioned it he'd say stuff like, "Everything's not all about you, ok!" Those games nearly destroyed me. Very, very sick.
Quote from: DestroyedKnight on April 13, 2015, 01:17:53 PM
Just about to set off for work this morning and my undiagnosed BPD ex girl posts this quote on her facebook wall
He might make her cry,but nobody makes her smile like he does
he might make her mad but nobody can make her laugh like he does
he might stress her out but nobody can make her happier than he does
although it may feel like the right thing to do to leave him,she just feels so wrong without him because nothing makes sense
nothing feels the way its supposed to,nothing feels right,but with him it's just something she can't explain
Although it might feel like hell when they argue,when they are getting along it feels perfect.
A few moments after posting this a new friend of hers pops up commenting on the post saying "sounds like you still love him?"
Moments later she replies "it's hard not to love him"
I sat there thinking surely this is not about me,nope definitely not,it has to be about someone else.And literally 5 minutes after posting it she then deletes the entire post
Come home from work tonight and she has yet again updated her fb relationship status to in a relationship and this must be about the 10th time she has changed it since ending it with me
What the hell is going on?
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DestroyedKnight
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Re: What the hell?
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April 13, 2015, 03:28:13 PM »
Quote from: Hope0807 on April 13, 2015, 03:15:38 PM
Mine did the same nonsense just a million times weirder and worse. Mind games for sure. When I questioned it he'd say stuff like, "Everything's not all about you, ok!" Those games nearly destroyed me. Very, very sick.
Quote from: DestroyedKnight on April 13, 2015, 01:17:53 PM
Just about to set off for work this morning and my undiagnosed BPD ex girl posts this quote on her facebook wall
He might make her cry,but nobody makes her smile like he does
he might make her mad but nobody can make her laugh like he does
he might stress her out but nobody can make her happier than he does
although it may feel like the right thing to do to leave him,she just feels so wrong without him because nothing makes sense
nothing feels the way its supposed to,nothing feels right,but with him it's just something she can't explain
Although it might feel like hell when they argue,when they are getting along it feels perfect.
A few moments after posting this a new friend of hers pops up commenting on the post saying "sounds like you still love him?"
Moments later she replies "it's hard not to love him"
I sat there thinking surely this is not about me,nope definitely not,it has to be about someone else.And literally 5 minutes after posting it she then deletes the entire post
Come home from work tonight and she has yet again updated her fb relationship status to in a relationship and this must be about the 10th time she has changed it since ending it with me
What the hell is going on?
oh yeah already been there and bought the t shirt.Questioned so many things and got exactly the same response."stop thinking everything is about you" "I never talk about you with anybody" "I have a life".Started off with "something has happened in my head,I don't know what it is but I need to see a doctor" "You know I love you" "I will always love you" I love you but I am not in love with you" "I don't love you anymore and haven't done for over a year".Funny because she asked me to marry me AGAIN a month before splitting with me and even had sex with me and kissed me passionately since the split
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Mind boggling stuff but I am determined not to let her ruin me like she so nearly did.
And I also had the I am a stalker speech so not a chance in hell I am gonna go running just because she posted something that looks like it is aimed at me oh and a kelly clarkson song behind these eyes and her saying "mine are blue but oh well"
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Re: What the hell?
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April 14, 2015, 02:37:22 AM »
I mean no disrespect... .but standing back here and taking this in... .it seems that you are dealing with the ramblings of a 12 year old. This is common with BPD's... .
Best solution: Stop looking at her Fakebook page. Problem solved. No more drama.
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Re: What the hell?
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April 14, 2015, 06:50:00 AM »
BLOCK
"Unfriend, block, delete"
Whatever it takes.
Ugh... .social media.
She is an ex.
Block her ban her delete her... .
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Re: What the hell?
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April 14, 2015, 10:52:26 AM »
I have similar antics from my dBPDex. It could be about you, it could be about someone on tinder they text messaged for a week. It is healthier not to burden our minds with the ramblings of an emotional 3-year old. Work on detaching my friend.
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Angry obsessive thoughts about another weaken your state of mind and well being. If you must have revenge, then take it by choosing to be happy and let them go forever.
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April 14, 2015, 11:10:46 AM »
She's not doing anything to you. You're doing it to yourself.
Stop snooping at her life, and get on with yours.
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