Was It Her?

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I have been NC for over a year with my ex BPDgf.   However a two months ago i had a weak day and was missing her a great deal.

I attempted to ring her on but after her phone rang twice i suddenly realised what i was doing and  came to my senses and hung up.  I had gone NC for so long i didn't want to go back again to that dark place.

A few weeks after that, on the same day of the week and exactly the same time  that i had attempted to call her, my phone rang.  I answered but it was a hang up call.   I assumed it was her.   Am i correct in thinking that?

[Willingtolearn]

I have been NC for over a year with my ex BPDgf.   However a two months ago i had a weak day and was missing her a great deal.

I attempted to ring her on but after her phone rang twice i suddenly realised what i was doing and  came to my senses and hung up.  I had gone NC for so long i didn't want to go back again to that dark place.

A few weeks after that, on the same day of the week and exactly the same time  that i had attempted to call her, my phone rang.  I answered but it was a hang up call.   I assumed it was her.   Am i correct in thinking that?

[Mutt]

Hi Willingtolearn,

I don't think anyone can tell for sure if it was her or not.

Do you miss her?

What would you tell her if you could?

[Willingtolearn]

Hi Mutt.

Do i miss her ?  Yes but i can stay strong.  I won't need to say anything to her because i will stay NC.

The reason i asked if it was her that made the call is that if she does call again then i need to be ready to deal with it.

The reason i think it was her was because the call came on exactly the same day of the week i attempted to call her and also at exactly the same time of day.

[Mister Brightside]

The reason i asked if it was her that made the call is that if she does call again then i need to be ready to deal with it.

Only she, God, and phone companies know the answer to that question. Whether it was her or not, you can still be prepared in case she ever calls you. What is your plan if it ever happens?

[ShadowIntheNight]

Did you hide your number or did she see your number and know it was you? If you hid your number then she wondered if you gave her a hang up call two months ago. She has probably wondered for two months why you called and hung up on her. What you're thinking now, she has been wondering for two months. See that?

Of course it was her. In her mind you have tried to reach out to her. She doesn't know what you told us. To her it looks like you gave her a hang up phone call two months ago. I'd say you both are engaged with one another again intentionally or not.

[ShadowIntheNight]

Actually I should have said IF it was her then you have both engaged with one another again intentionally or not. Mia culpa.