I went home to Ohio this weekend. Felt like I couldn't go home and not see BPDMom b/c (thank you facebook) someone would have told her I was home. I spent *exactly* two hours with her. It was strained and uncomfortable. At first she acted like she didn't know who I was. Squinted (because she is 'blind' (just ask her and she'll tell you)) and was like "Molly is that you? What are you doing here?" This from the woman who claims seeing me is the only joy she has in life (yes she is that dramatic). Naturally, she hugged me like a drowning person hugs a lifeguard... .but that's exactly what it felt like: her trying to drag me under the water with her. (ok so apparently drama runs in the family
) Being in physical contact with her was hard... .harder than ever. I used to be able to pretend so easily, now I want to pull back and yell "don't touch me!" I know she doesn't deserve that and, that day, did nothing to warrant such a reaction from me. Maybe it's just instinct.
(Tangent here but I promise it matters to the story)
She has stopped respecting my phone boundaries of once a day at a specific time and not on weekends. She has gone back to calling 2-3x a day at any all hours despite knowing I work a full time job with regular business hours.
(back on topic)
I came home for a bridal shower for my soon-to-be-sister-in-law. I was at the shower for 3 hrs and missed two calls from Mom... .on a Saturday. I was planning to surprise her Sunday by stopping by and spending time with her. I texted her and said "I'm out running errands will call later." I didn't call b/c the whirlwind travel and then 3 hrs with screaming woman touched off the migraine. I called her Sunday morning on my way to her house and chatted about nothing. I was just making sure she was at the house really. I cut the convo short b/c I was sitting in front of the apartment in my car by saying "I'm at the store I need to finish my errands. gotta go." Her reply was "::scoffs:: my God how many errands do you have to run?" in her normal nasty voice. I said "Mom I'm very busy. I'll talk to you later." So then surprise ensues and she does not apologize for being nasty. I spend the 2 hrs and leave. Come back to my Dad's house to hear stepmom say "did you see your mom's fb post?" Nope. Pull it up and it says this:
So when your grown daughter blows you off on the phone to do errands and you've been looking forward to talking to her(she's in VA) all day, it makes you sad. I had a sad Saturday afternoon. When that same grown daughter calls you unexpectedly on Sunday, and once again, after a brief conversation, blows you off to do errands, it just makes you sadder. Then someone knocks on the door - and the dog who is outside (on a steel cable tie out - that'll teach her to snap a leash!) isn't barking or whining , which is extremely odd - and you answer the door (of course still in my pj's, cause, really, it's Sunday and who cares?) to see a woman who looks very familiar, but it can't be her, cause you just hung up from talking with her and she's in VA running errands, it's probably the most wonderful gift anyone's ever given you - cause IT IS YOUR GROWN DAUGHTER WHO'S IN OH AND AT YOUR DOOR! I think I squeezed the stuffins right out of her~
I was so mad I couldn't believe it. What a nasty way to say something nice about someone. I particularly enjoyed how she painted me as the b*tch for the entire first part of this and then, miraculously, I'm the "the perfect child." (sarcasm) No splitting here!
I don't expect replies to this I just needed to vent to folks who understand her behavior and why it makes me so angry. Thanks for listening.
