enDad not cluing in

[Rbrdkyst4]

 

Been a while. Life has been good. I have been NC with uBPDm and enDad for 3 years.

Unfortunately enDad hasn't gotten the message, and has recently sent me a birthday card. No return address, but I recognize the handwriting. He's attempting to make peace and I don't want any of it.

Any suggestions? I don't want this to ruin my birthday, since my wonderful wife has got tickets to a group I love, and we're hitting the movie theater for Avengers 2 too (I'm a big Ironman/Tony Stark/Robert Downey Jr fan).

Cheers!

[Naughty Nibbler]

Happy Birthday!

I'd just ignore the card.  Throw it away and pretend you didn't get it.  I'm thinking you are celebrating this coming weekend.  Have fun!

[Kwamina]

Hi Rbrdkyst4

I am glad to hear life's been good

He's attempting to make peace and I don't want any of it.

Any suggestions? I don't want this to ruin my birthday, since my wonderful wife has got tickets to a group I love, and we're hitting the movie theater for Avengers 2 too (I'm a big Ironman/Tony Stark/Robert Downey Jr fan).

I'd say you have various options. Responding to the card is one. Another option is to just do nothing and not respond at all. He sent you the card but because he broke NC doesn't automatically mean that you have to do the same. Whatever you decide to do, my advice is to remain true to yourself and what you want to do. If you want to respond, that's fine. If you don't want to respond, that's fine too. It's your choice. To help you decide what to do, it might help to consider the likely scenarios that would unfold with each of these options.

PS. I'm also a big Ironman/Tony Stark/Robert Downey Jr fan!  Enjoy the movie!