It’s been a few years since my r/s with my exUBPD. We’ve maintained very LC over the years, online and belong to the same writing site where we can put our writing up to be critiqued.
Okay, so I critiqued something of his (along with many other people), all went well. I put up something and he & others weighed in on it and I made some changes. However, he just critiqued it again and it reads like he’s annoyed that I won’t make certain connections by using a particular word to “help the reader”. He says that frustrates him.
He says things like: “using your logic”, and to “google the word”, because he did and found nothing to suggest what I had stated it could be... .
This all brings me back to those circular, logical arguments of “yesteryear” that I had no chance with... .argh! I always wondered how I'd react to things after being here and learning all that I did about BPD and I do see that he is trying to be helpful.
I also see he truly is frustrated. As a writer, I don't want to frustrate people... .
... .but it is my creative piece.
He stops himself and says, “Okay, enough, please don’t hate me.” and says he wants my writing to be instinctual and I’m such a great writer, think of him as a semi-intelligent devil’s advocate and wants me to be writing from my “core.”
This is on a public forum, just like this one. How do I possibly respond?
