What was your ex's recycle attempt?

[Arcturus81]

Mine was a text about a week ago. It stated that she ran into an old high school friend of mine (Haven't spoken in years) and that he was running his mouth about me. Literally just one sentence. After almost 3 months no contact. After being on this site I know that was an attempt to see if she still had her hooks in. I never responded and promptly downloaded a block app on my phone. Btw Phone warrior app works best.

I was just wondering how your ex attempted to recycle you?

[Infared]

http://Not trying to pick your post apart, but if contact is made to see if "the hook is still set" (selfishness and unhealthy validation), isn't that much different than a recycle attempt?

I think it is but I am no expert, that is for sure.

I was always dumbfounded and disturbed by the contacts. I believe they were to see if the hook was still set... .but will never be sure?

My expwBPD had run off with new supply and was living with him. Continued to lie to me that she had been cheating.  

I got a 4x drive-by once where I live and then (incoming, help!) a pull-in... .to chat? -bizarre-

I've gotten staged "accidental run-in" in grocery-store parking lot ( ambush)  

I've also gotten the ole' "pull up next to me at a traffic light at night, put on the dome light and strike a pose" thing? Super bizarre. Think I was supposed to break down and call her or something... .again ... .not sure... .who knows? Was that a recycle attempt?  It's hard to know when you are dealing wit a whacky, crazy BPD.

I think all of her many contacts were for some kind of self-validation, but I will never really know.

Arc... .your contact seems like the same kind of thing.  She used a ridiculous excuse to make contact (where she can, in her mind, pass off the reason for contact on you, [he was YOUR friend after all]). My guess would be that she is just on a fishing expedition for her own selfish needs. Nothing more.  I believe you stayed NC, right?  If so, good move my friend.

[lipstick]

Hi Arcturus 81,

Mine came in the form of a Facebook "Friend Request" after over a year of the Silent Treatment following the discard. I stupidly waited for a message to come along with the request. I got a message, alright. He blocked me when I didn't accept his request. That was in December of 2013. Now I've discovered he's watching my Facebook videos several times a day!  Again - no contact.

I've also received suspicious "Private Name, Private Number" calls to my mobile & home phone on / around significant dates (birthday, etc.).

Games... .

[UserName69]

After a while when we broke up she tried to get my attention on facebook by posting a lot of nonsense status updates.

I never took the bait.