Today, I am confused... .BUT... .I am not breaking NC... .If she contacts me ... .I will have a good talk to her about her behavior.
That doesn't sound to me like No Contact.
I'm sorry that I don't know your backstory, and how she must have hurt you and destroyed this relationship with her unacceptable behavior. However, no contact is for YOU, not her. Unless you are using No Contact as a Silent Treatment (i.e.- living completely in the enmeshed, pathological push-pull craziness that is BPD) to get back at her, I suggest you do nothing of the sort. If you are truly in No Contact and she contacts you, hang up, delete the e-mail, ignore the text, call the police to have her removed from your presence. Giving her a piece of your mind is EXACTLY what she wants you to do.
Next thing you know, you'll be buying her a $25,000 Tiffany diamond ring and apologizing for everything that you did wrong to her.
If you need to be out of her web of crazy, what are you doing looking at her on Facebook?
Get out and stay out, or start using the tools found on the Staying section of this forum, to make your relationship a healthy one. Right now, your Facebooking / stalking her is no less crazy than her flight into health, happiness and paradise.
Good luck-
Surg_Bear