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StarOfTheSea
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June 09, 2015, 10:25:39 PM »
So this is interesting... .I was feeling brave tonight so I checked out my exBPDbf's FB page. What I found was he hasn't posted since the beginning of March. This is interesting to me because he's an avid poster, he would post every few days when we were together. His last pic was one of him and his fiancee . (Engaged six weeks after our b/u.)
I then checked out the fiancée's page and by the looks of it you'd never know she was engaged. She has ZERO pics of them together or even of him. There is also no mention of him on her page.
How very odd... .if I used FB and had found the love of my life. I'd certainly mention it and have pics of us. I do believe the s-t show has commenced!
Has this been observed by anyone else? Have any of you had ex BPD's that have gone into FB silence?
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I have been stalking mine just a bit even though I know that I should not... .she blocked me so I am very limited in what I can see... .mine is not really posting or even commenting at all and her profile and background pics are overdue for a change... .like many on FB, if they don't have anything self praising, they usually stay silent. For some other reasons, I think that things are not going very well in her life. Very likely that your ex and his fiance has 'woke up' and have become sober.
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Quote from: StarOfTheSea on June 09, 2015, 10:25:39 PM
So this is interesting... .I was feeling brave tonight so I checked out my exBPDbf's FB page. What I found was he hasn't posted since the beginning of March. This is interesting to me because he's an avid poster, he would post every few days when we were together. His last pic was one of him and his fiancee . (Engaged six weeks after our b/u.)
I then checked out the fiancée's page and by the looks of it you'd never know she was engaged. She has ZERO pics of them together or even of him. There is also no mention of him on her page.
How very odd... .if I used FB and had found the love of my life. I'd certainly mention it and have pics of us. I do believe the s-t show has commenced!
Has this been observed by anyone else? Have any of you had ex BPD's that have gone into FB silence?
Same here; probably things in his life are not going so well.
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zundertowz
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I have not checked her FB once since we broke up but I always took FB silence as you have more important things going on... .but could be different for BPD i guess.
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Maybe they have a Twitter account? Instagram? Snapchat?
I blocked my ex over a year BEFORE we were divorced.
I am privated down pretty tight so no one can see anything on my page... .
I am only friends with for real live friends, so I have like, 20 'friends' on my FB.
Social Media today can be like drugs... .people get addicted to it and think it's real life and can't function without it.
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For me, one of the first odd things was the my exBPD found me on FB and then sent a Friend request and quickly got us onto Skype. Then mysteriously, she said her FB account was hacked and she shut it down. I have other theories.
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June 10, 2015, 07:29:35 AM »
When my exgf goes fb silent its normally one of two reasons.
1 she is in full idolisation mode and doesnt need fb.
2 she has done something and is in hiding. Last time her landlords gorlfriend confronted her in school and called her a slapper. I believe she is having a fling with him so shut down fb so her boyfriend wouldnt get wind.
but they are all individuals so could be a different motivation.
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My udBPDstbx hasn't been on FB for months. We are in the process of divorcing and unfortunately, we are still in the same house (because I will be moving a significant distance away once the school year is over). He started dating someone he met on an online dating site about two weeks ago.
He went on FB over the weekend and updated his relationship status from "married" to "no relationship status." He hasn't done anything else and he is not friends with the replacement. Yet. Her page is pretty private so I can't see if she's posted pics of them together on one of their many dates.
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