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VIDEO: "What is parental alienation?" Parental alienation is when a parent allows a child to participate or hear them degrade the other parent. This is not uncommon in divorces and the children often adjust. In severe cases, however, it can be devastating to the child. This video provides a helpful overview.
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« on: June 10, 2015, 06:05:38 AM »



No idea where she slept... .how late... .whatever.

I'm working on job search stuff... .

She stomps into room grumbling about chores... .

"That's it... .I'm done with you... .I'm really done with you... ." slammed a couple doors

I walked downstairs... .to find some peace and quiet... .

Not really triggered this morning... .just tired of the BS.

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« Reply #1 on: June 10, 2015, 06:39:42 AM »

 

So... .boundaries seemed to do me well this morning.

I made effort to go to downstairs and other side of house. 

I heard some stomping... .and could hear a loud voice a couple times a minute... .but I have no idea what she blathered about while getting ready to go to work.

She had to walk past me on the way out... .

":)ude... .you made your choice... ."  Big slam of the front door... .big one... .and VAAAAROOM went the car down the street.

Sigh... .almost done with a job application.

I guess this is just a venting post... .  Sometimes it helps if I write things and the reread them. 

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« Reply #2 on: June 10, 2015, 06:59:44 AM »

I know the feeling FF. I've had these types of mornings before. Before learning of BPD and ways to deal with it, these were nightmares for me to deal with. It's still disheartening even now to deal with. Especially, if you had a good night with your pwBPD the night before. Laughing, joking, spending time together. Then you wake up the next morning and it was like your quality time the night before was a dream.

I'm right there with you. Keep doing you, that's all one really can do.
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« Reply #3 on: June 11, 2015, 01:47:55 PM »

Did she ever explain later what she was upset about? It's so hard for me to determine anymore what is actually a BPD issue, and what is just a normal issue. I try not to write everything off as BPD, but all his reactions seem to intertwined, that it's hard to do.

I'm thinking if it was just a normal relationship issue though, the adult thing would be to talk it over with you later? If you get the silent treatment, it's likely BPD.
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« Reply #4 on: June 11, 2015, 02:06:49 PM »

   

How old is she? Is she nearing menopause or perimenopause?

Wanted to throw that out there. . .from all of your posts lately, it seems like she has gotten pretty moody lately. When you add hormonal stuff on top of something like BPD, I can't even begin to imagine.

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« Reply #5 on: June 11, 2015, 02:12:46 PM »

 

How old is she? Is she nearing menopause or perimenopause?

Wanted to throw that out there. . .from all of your posts lately, it seems like she has gotten pretty moody lately. When you add hormonal stuff on top of something like BPD, I can't even begin to imagine.

Not to be funny, but my wife turns 50 later this year and I think that on top of my wife's BPD is definitely a dangerous cocktail... .I think this is something that I have been up against to make things worse and her so dang volatile at times... .
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« Reply #6 on: June 11, 2015, 02:43:21 PM »

 

She is 42.

More of a chance for her to be grumpy in morning... .rather than evening... .that is pattern.

I'll start a new topic today sometime... we eventually talked about the chores and chore chart...

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