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Author Topic: The downfall with age, without sense of self.  (Read 452 times)
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What is your sexual orientation: Straight
Who in your life has "personality" issues: Ex-romantic partner
Relationship status: Divorced
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« on: June 30, 2015, 12:01:09 PM »

Or, it really gets worse when they get older.

At first I couldn’t believe my eyes when I received a picture from a friend (of which ex doesn’t know we are friends, long story) who felt out of his chair by seeing this.

Sitting comfortable in my chair again, my smile got bigger and bigger. No, not because of Schadenfreude or pity, just as an extra confirmation of all, years before the end, predicted to her!

Part of it was already confirmed when accidently meeting her and her wrinkled grandpa tatooboy at a terrace.

Partially wondering myself if ‘that’ was her choice after a 30+ yrs and kids, ‘that’ was her idea of ‘the best ever happened to me’, choosing ‘that’?

Confirmation for me again of the predicted downfall

Here’s the story

Normally attending a wedding one dresses appropriate with decent and stylish cloths.

Now imagine a group photo showing several people in their midlife posing, wearing really nice dresses (ca. knee length), men appropriate in suite with ties, all classy.

Suddenly ones eye see a woman at the front row, fully exposed, in a frumpy summer dress, length less than half of her thighs (not yet mini), wearing not matching shoes, shoes that would be comfortable for a old woman. Even seemed ‘forgotten’ to dye her hair…

Must be nice for a wrinkled grandpa to see his nurse in high thighs, as an 18 yr. old…   

The other eye see the soother grandpa, no jacket, no tie, just a blouse hanging over his pants. 

The contrast couldn’t be bigger with the rest of the group!

A total downgrade, but perfectly matching each other.

Now also imagine a woman I used to know, wearing modern stylish and more upper market cloths, decent  dressed attending occasions. And yes of course, as we all do in and around the house, wearing also comfy old cloths .

Predicted, the downfall, the degeneration, the downgrade, the chameleon.

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For years someone I loved once gave me boxes full of darkness.
It made me sad, it made me cry.
It took me long to understand that these were the most wonderful gifts.
It was all she had to give
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