Well after he left, I checked the mail and to my amusement found car insurance papers and a car title for him. Also there was a forwarding address confirmation with the USPS, so this is in the works for a bit (at least a few days).
I didn't say anything about the mail (still deciding what to do.
Then today he called me. I let it go to VM. Then he texted me and said he had some mail coming (thinking he was talking about the mail I got). Then he sent the same message to Facebook when I didn't answer. Then he sent messages clarifying that it was a book, was to be delivered by UPS, etc. I sensed he was starting to panic (thinking I would keep it or something that he dreams up) so I sent: "I'll get it. Teaching." Indicating that I was too busy to talk because I didn't want it to be open to more questions. He wrote back, "thank you so much" a bit uncharacteristically.
Came home tonight and his book was here. Checked the mailbox and saw that there's a registered letter waiting too, and I assume it's for him since the last name is that of his family. So now I have his car insurance, car title, some book he was pretty concerned about, and the notification/receipt to pick up a certified letter on Monday.
Questions are how should I handle it? I've come up with some possibilities:
- Do nothing (probably not a good idea)
- Arrange to meet him (also not a good idea)
- Tell him that I am available at such and such a time and he is to arrange a police escort to come in and pick up his things (this feels better than the others)
- Give the things to my pastor whom he has used before to get things to me (this pastor is busy, but would be willing if needed. Pros: it would allow him to connect again with the pastor who has about 30 years experience in counseling and therapy; cons: I feel like this is playing his game his way)
- Bring the stuff to his job and drop it off without a word to him
- Ask him for a forwarding address (he'll assume this is a trap)
- Leave the things with the Haitian pastor (whom I've tried to get him to see with me, so he'll also see this as a trap and it won't work because he'll shut down before going)
- Ask him for the address of his lawyer (assuming he has one) and bring the things to the office
- Leave the things with another mutual friend (also playing his way)
I feel like I need to give him the things because this is one way to start removing the black paint. Plus, I'm just not a vindictive person. It's his stuff, it should go to him.
I just think that this can be used to establish some sort of boundary (you left and didn't take your key, I'm not under any obligation to make sure you get this stuff).
I also think that it's too soon from when he left for me to be in contact with him. I want to wait at least until Monday to make ANY effort to get it all to him.
Thoughts?
And it's just a slave, not a sex slave. He's not quite that creative yet.
