What was the last straw for you to know relationship over

[Before you can make things better, you have to stop making them worse...]

Getting out has really forced me to look at the things I tolerated for so long and realize that clearly there was something wrong in my life to allow that kind of treatment. I've done a lot of self work on myself including counseling which has brought me so much peace within myself as well as resolve that there is no way I will ever allow this kind of thing to happen to me or my children.  I am working on forgiving myself for this which has been the hardest part of the journey.  I am in a good place.

As for meeting someone else, I have.  The most amazing man with a perspective on life that matches my new outlook on life in so many ways.  There are no mental health issues, no red flags of any kind and yet, we're taking it day by day and simply enjoying each others' company in a way that is so comfortable and safe that once again, it's brought to mind how bad things were for me for so long.  I have never felt so respected and worthy of good things in my whole life. 

[Michelle27]

Getting out has really forced me to look at the things I tolerated for so long and realize that clearly there was something wrong in my life to allow that kind of treatment. I've done a lot of self work on myself including counseling which has brought me so much peace within myself as well as resolve that there is no way I will ever allow this kind of thing to happen to me or my children.  I am working on forgiving myself for this which has been the hardest part of the journey.  I am in a good place.

As for meeting someone else, I have.  The most amazing man with a perspective on life that matches my new outlook on life in so many ways.  There are no mental health issues, no red flags of any kind and yet, we're taking it day by day and simply enjoying each others' company in a way that is so comfortable and safe that once again, it's brought to mind how bad things were for me for so long.  I have never felt so respected and worthy of good things in my whole life. 

[tenderhearted]

many many things... .water torture over an 8 month period... .building up over time - apparently, I have a high tolerance for emotional and verbal abuse, but as soon as she threatened me physically I was out.of.there.quick.

"if you leave, I am going to throw this glass at your skull." scary and sad. scared the ___ out of me. couldn't sleep for days afterwards.

[darkhorse85]

I guess I first knew when my partner together with her brother accused me of assaulting him and phoned the police.

Of course no such act took place against her brother. This I felt as a betrayal from both from them. He brother did not like my as refused to mother him and allow him to continue to take advanage of myself and my partner. She was in complete denial of this and would never acknowledge his flaws as real. Her mother was the same him.

Ironically before the police arrived that evening I was struck twice by my former partner. The police officer who arrived thankfully seemed understand what had gone on and put 2 an 2 together. At least I hope he did. I imagine there  would be some sort of physical mark if he were attacked.

Strangely she still believes her brother was attacked by me to this day and holds it against me.

[klacey3]

Getting out has really forced me to look at the things I tolerated for so long and realize that clearly there was something wrong in my life to allow that kind of treatment. I've done a lot of self work on myself including counseling which has brought me so much peace within myself as well as resolve that there is no way I will ever allow this kind of thing to happen to me or my children.  I am working on forgiving myself for this which has been the hardest part of the journey.  I am in a good place.

As for meeting someone else, I have.  The most amazing man with a perspective on life that matches my new outlook on life in so many ways.  There are no mental health issues, no red flags of any kind and yet, we're taking it day by day and simply enjoying each others' company in a way that is so comfortable and safe that once again, it's brought to mind how bad things were for me for so long.  I have never felt so respected and worthy of good things in my whole life. 

I am glad you have found yourself a nice new man

Can I ask, why did you tolerate it for so long and what did you need to forgive yourself for?