For catharsis, what single statement really hurt you

[Infared]

"A zebra doesn't change it's stripes."

Always said to call to my attention to the fact that I was not performing in a way that she wanted me to. Was always said with contempt or superiority.

It was quite a joyful moment for me to finally use the line on her when I had evidence that she was lying to me and cheating on me, just like she did with every other man she had ever been with.

Silence... .deafening silence... .

[enlighten me]

I told you to pick up (add something I wasnt told).

I hate liars ( from one of the biggest liars ive ever met)

You were flirting with ( add any woman I happen to speak to even check out girls or waitresses)

[Loosestrife]

"You're pushing me"

[Forestaken]

"YOU did this" (how does one punch themselves in the face?)

"You love drama"

"Are you cheating on me?" (cheaters love to accuse, classic)

"Can you get me (fill in the blank)"

"What's wrong"

"Let's have a baby" (daily)

":)o I do that to you? I never do that to you" (last time she pulled this one out, she was referring to how I "rush" her. i had a 10am appointment and let her know the night before we needed to be out the door at 9:30. At 10am as I'm still standing there asking her to please hurry as I was late for my apt, her rage at me began for "rushing her". It escalated in the car as she grabbed the steering wheel and swerved us to the side demanding to be let out of the car. Almost forgot about that story)

You married my Xw? Why am I still paying alimony?

[SummerStorm]

"I miss you" - Always said when she wasn't getting attention from her boyfriend

"IDK" - Her way of avoiding answering questions

"You're so clingy" - Her reaction to me trying to have an adult conversation

"You're so f*#@ing annoying" - Said at random times

"Ok" - Like, "IDK," a way of avoiding conversation

"Can I stay over on ___________ night?" - Asked when she was idealizing me

"Come to my room after bus duty?"

"Sit with me at the assembly?"

"I have to pee" - I knew more about her bathroom habits than I did my own

"Ugh, this music sucks" - Nothing I listened to pleased her, and I have an extremely eclectic taste in music

"I want popcorn" - One of the few things she ate; the smell always permeated my bedroom

"I'm sick/throwing up and can't go to work/hang out with you."

"If you had moved in with me when I first asked you to, none of this would have happened." 

[Beach_Babe]

"I'll pay it eventually"

[lostjak]

"I'm not playing games."

"I don't want to fight about it."

"You know that triggers me."

[Yolanda123]

Why do you do that to me?

I love you anyway

[UserName69]

Everytime when we got back to eachother I took her out for dinners of gave her a present.

"You cant simply bribe me"

"You cant throw money at your problems"

"You really believe money can solve everything? "

"How the hell did you get me here (when we went out for dinner)"

She always used to say these things.

[flycast89]

"The way you dress is repulsive... .We've been dating for awhile now, and you haven't made any adjustments (to the way you dress)."

"It's not all about you."

":)on't get such a big head."

"Pay attention!"

":)o you even know which direction is north?"

My favorite though, as I am a documentary filmmaker... ."You are spoiled, and selfish. You love talking about yourself. Why don't you go make a movie about it."

[icecream]

-I really don't know who i am, i have to figure out myself

-My life is chaos, you don't understand that

-My head, my neck, my back is killing me

-I understand you don't want to be my friend, i wouldn't be friends with someone like me

-Right now i'm angry

-I miss you

-You don't listen, i told you so many times

-I'm exhausted

-People say I can't be alone, they are wrong... .I really can

-Why do I always have to say sorry

-I don't want to talk about it

- I I I I I... .Always I... .

[nowwhatz]

Gazing into my eyes and saying, "I love you Turkish," said at the time with utmost sincerity.  :'(

Bingo.

That and similiar things said and done are what stings the most and what I don't ever want to experience again.  

The utmost sincerity. Yes.     Being told "I love you" with the utmost sincerity from a person with BPD that you truly love is a form of mental torture which has almost destroyed me.

God help me if she ever attempts to recyle again and says those words.

Was never called names or verbally abused like so many other examples on this thread. That would have been much better.

[disorderedsociety]

I hate myself and want to die

I wish assisted suicide was legal

My back is so tense, will you rub it for me?

My foot is cramped up, will you rub it for me?

What do you wanna do?

Do you wanna get a four loko (alcoholic drink)?

Are you gonna leave me?

You're gonna leave me aren't you?

Who was that girl you smiled at?

Why were you gone so long?

Do you hate me now? (almost in the tone of, can you hate me please? what the heck)

Do you think I'm fat?

I'm so fat, look at me.

I feel disgusting

I just ate ___ and now I'm gonna go throw it up

Why don't you pay more attention to me (after being in the same room for 5 hours and giving responses to everything)?

[arn131arn]

- you will NEVER be inside me again!

Jesus, we can't even make this s!;t up can we?

[SummerStorm]

"I'll pay it eventually"

Gotta love the word "eventually."  To them, "eventually" could mean 1,000 years from now.

[SummerStorm]

"The way you dress is repulsive... .We've been dating for awhile now, and you haven't made any adjustments (to the way you dress)."

"It's not all about you."

":)o you even know which direction is north?"

I was never told that the way I dress is repulsive, but mine tried to get me to wear makeup (I've never worn it; my mom has never worn it), get a new bra from Victoria's Secret (a waste of money, IMO), and change my hair style.

Yes, I got "Not everything is about you" and similar sentences several times.

Mine also doubted my knowledge of things and ability to do things, which is hilarious because, intellectually, we are on the same level.   

[SummerStorm]

-My head, my neck, my back is killing me

-I understand you don't want to be my friend, i wouldn't be friends with someone like me

-I miss you

-I'm exhausted

-People say I can't be alone, they are wrong... .I really can

-I don't want to talk about it

I heard all of these, but the one that really got me is the "People say I can't be alone, they are wrong... .I really can" one.

Mine would complain one second that she has no friends and then later say, "I don't care that I have no friends."  The night before she tried to commit suicide, she  told me that, when she was in college, it didn't bother her that she had no friends at all. 

The funny thing is, my former friend can't deal with being alone.  She gets rid of friends and boyfriends/girlfriends very easily, but she always jumps right into other friendships and relationships.  I don't know her whole history, in terms of specific dates and things, but I doubt she's been single for more than a week in the past five years.  She broke up with a guy in January, started dating her current boyfriend a week or so later, became friends with me at the same time, and then set me up to be his replacement a month or two later.  She refuses to live alone.  She could afford a one-bedroom apartment, but she instead shacks up with the first person who offers. 

She always says that she has so much stress and anxiety in her life, but she is the main cause of it.  If I were constantly thinking about where I was going to live next, I would be stressed, too.  You know things are bad when a person has to move and only has two options at the time--a guy she's been dating for a month and a person she's been friends with for a month--because she has absolutely no one else in her life.   

[ponco]

"Never"

[Lifewriter16]

"You're a callous, heartless b___" did the trick.

Lifewriter

[Erliquin]

"I can see why your ex-wife killed herself."

There were many of course, but this single line was devastating.

[MrTardyPresent]

"Why are you so nice to me?" (Post Cheating/Break up)

"Why do you stay with someone like me?" (After hurting me and using crocodile tears to make me feel sorry for her even though I'm the one that's hurt)

"I felt like we were losing connection." (Post Cheating/Break up)

"You'll understand" (Post cheating/Break up)

[Mutt]

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