What's in her head?

[Depression = 72% of members]

My exBPD and I broke up 3 months ago and within this period she is with my replacement and moved on with him. Her fb posts show that she is over the moon with him and very happy.

What triggered me to make a new post and ask you the question is the following:

She changed her profile picture and posted a picture of us from our last years holidays. The picture could be cropped entirely and cut me off but she cut me off in half. Half of me is still in the picture even though she is with another man. He doesn't have a fb account.

What's in her head? Thanks in advance.

[hibye]

My exBPD and I broke up 3 months ago and within this period she is with my replacement and moved on with him. Her fb posts show that she is over the moon with him and very happy.

What triggered me to make a new post and ask you the question is the following:

She changed her profile picture and posted a picture of us from our last years holidays. The picture could be cropped entirely and cut me off but she cut me off in half. Half of me is still in the picture even though she is with another man. He doesn't have a fb account.

What's in her head? Thanks in advance.

[SummerStorm]

She probably knows that you check her FB page, and she's playing with you.  Also, people on Facebook and other social media (not just pwBPD, but people in general) are rarely honest about what's really going on.  Heck, I was looking at my tweets yesterday, and a few days after my former friend BPD cut me out of her life, I tweeted something about how cute sand cats are.  I was hurting so much at the time and still am, but if you read my tweets, you would think nothing is wrong. 

So, it's very possible that she isn't happy with your replacement.  And even if she is, she is probably already looking for his replacement.  If she can get her hooks in you again and make you think she is still thinking about you, you will end up being the replacement for your replacement.

My advice is to block her on FB and move on.   

[apollotech]

She probably knows that you check her FB page, and she's playing with you.  Also, people on Facebook and other social media (not just pwBPD, but people in general) are rarely honest about what's really going on.  Heck, I was looking at my tweets yesterday, and a few days after my former friend BPD cut me out of her life, I tweeted something about how cute sand cats are.  I was hurting so much at the time and still am, but if you read my tweets, you would think nothing is wrong. 

So, it's very possible that she isn't happy with your replacement.  And even if she is, she is probably already looking for his replacement.  If she can get her hooks in you again and make you think she is still thinking about you, you will end up being the replacement for your replacement.

My advice is to block her on FB and move on.   

Well said SS, and I couldn' agree more. The abnormal cropping is the attention getter begging for a question/response from hibye. Be careful hibye, she has her sights on ya.

[Mutt]

Hi hibye,

I can see how that would be confusing. Do you know if she's particularly fond of how she looks  in that picture? Maybe she's not good at cropping?

[Herodias]

I can tell you for sure... .what they are showing is not all of the facts! My Husband's girlfriend keeps posting all of these ridiculous posts about him being the love of her life! In the meantime, he tells me they are fighting allot, because he keeps calling her my name, talking about me in his sleep and he keeps his wedding band in the console of his car! They had a huge fight with her yesterday, because she wants him to move in with her... .she is postings picture of engagement rings, wedding dresses and babies! He is not interested in any of that. Should be interesting how long this lasts... .It's been about 3 months- He is calling me telling me he loves me now. He told me he is going to get a vasectomy and not tell her, I said that's a great idea, that way she won't try and talk him out of it... .I think he is seeing what he lost in me... .finally. He had a better life and less complicated.

[UserName69]

She's playing games with you. It seems like many exBPD's want to stay in touch with their exes and I can relate to this. They want to keep you so they can play with your feelings and later they jump back to you and dump you when they want.

Best thing to do is to block her, that's like banning her from the playground. Don't take her actions too serious, its always the opposite with pwBPD's.

I think she cuts you in half was done on purpose to get your attention. Don't give her this attention instead block her. My exBPD did these kind of things too but in an another way.

[hibye]

Thanks guys for your answers they were all extremely helpful.

I have her blocked all these months but she knows i may see her from another account or a mutual friend can tell me the news.

Mutt in this photo she is very hot indeed but she definitely knows how to crop the photo. She put the same photo in the past but then we where together. Now if she is so uninterested of me and just left me there in half she doesn't show respect to the new guy with whom as i mentioned stay together.

I won't respond at her in any way, even though i have learned so much about her and i would like to share them.

Thank you all one more time

[enlighten me]

It could be triangulation. Even though her boyfriend doesnt have fb it doesnt mean he doesnt see it. Its not beyond a pwBPD to show you things for a reaction. Maybe she's using you to make hee boyfriend jealous. You dont have to be a willing participant to be used in triangulation.

[hibye]

It could be triangulation. Even though her boyfriend doesnt have fb it doesnt mean he doesnt see it. Its not beyond a pwBPD to show you things for a reaction. Maybe she's using you to make hee boyfriend jealous. You dont have to be a willing participant to be used in triangulation.

Thank you for your time.

Let me clear something up. The photo she put with the 2 of us was pretty intimate. We were lying on the beach close to each other.

My replacement seems to be a good guy with a good job (money) and go together to many places she likes like theatres etc. She is in the honeymoon phase and i dont think at this time she could jeopardize all this to make him feel jealous of me. She moved in to his house which is something she was desperate. In the past she told me multiple times to move in together.

[once removed]

"She is in the honeymoon phase and i dont think at this time she could jeopardize all this to make him feel jealous of me."

you might be surprised. my ex did a very similar thing right when her new relationship began; posted a picture with me cropped out, even though she kept the original photo public. during OUR honeymoon phase, at least one ex came up very often.

its not necessarily about deliberately and consciously making him jealous.

[enlighten me]

It could be triangulation. Even though her boyfriend doesnt have fb it doesnt mean he doesnt see it. Its not beyond a pwBPD to show you things for a reaction. Maybe she's using you to make hee boyfriend jealous. You dont have to be a willing participant to be used in triangulation.

Thank you for your time.

Let me clear something up. The photo she put with the 2 of us was pretty intimate. We were lying on the beach close to each other.

My replacement seems to be a good guy with a good job (money) and go together to many places she likes like theatres etc. She is in the honeymoon phase and i dont think at this time she could jeopardize all this to make him feel jealous of me. She moved in to his house which is something she was desperate. In the past she told me multiple times to move in together.

There are certain events that seem to trigger pwBPD. One is getting married another is moving in together. Just because for us nons everything would be going well doesnt mean a pwBPD would feel the same. We can only guess at their reasons for doing things. Triangulation is very common as is rubbing our noses in it. With rubbing our noses in it its more of a case of "look at what your missing".