A little background to start. Married 10 years, in process of divorce, 2bx moving out on Sunday. I had a weak moment last weekend and asked if she would have dinner with me one last time to which she said; "give me an
I statement".
So, I said I would like to have dinner with you one last time before you leave, to which she said yes.
Now I am nervous and realize that I am hoping to say something profound that may get her to understand what has been going on etc... .
Talked with T who told me not to judge how I feel with any of her responses at dinner. I am not sure if I should order pizza in, I think going to a restaurant would be too weird.
My fantasy is as follows: I want to tell her about BPD and secretly hope that she will tell me she loves me (I am totally painted black, 100%).
Closer to reality I am thinking of saying something like: we had good times and bad times and we each grew a lot during the marriage and I am really sad but glad we are able to come together one last time. Mushy mushy crapola!
I am confused!